I have marriage on my mind this week. Or more specifically – what makes it work, what causes it to crumble, and what increases the likelihood that any committed relationship will thrive. I have the nature of obligation on my mind as well: what we owe ourselves when it comes to who we are and […]
The FAT Issue
In 1978, a book hit the market that continues to be discussed from time to time, and I wish we were discussing it more often. “Fat Is a Feminist Issue” was written by Susie Orbach, and it’s still relevant today. Possibly, more than ever. My mother was obese, which is defined as 20% over normal […]
Missing the Marital Mark
Success, failure, and musing on marriage.
Relationship Approach: Strategy or Serendipity?
He shows up with a dizzying armload of flowers, and behind them – his mischievous smile I’ve come to adore, the one that lightens everything that crazies me, the one that makes me want to drop whatever I’m holding as I take his face in my hands and kiss him, then kiss him again, and […]
Backbone
When parenting requires the backbone to say no.
Do You Actually LIKE The Opposite Sex?
We know we are different. How do we like those differences?
Life Alone or Life Coupled?
So what’s your preference? Find the woman of your dreams? The man of your dreams? Are you anticipating a rosy romance leading to traditional marriage? Or have you been there, done that – and now prefer your life on your own? Recently on the Huffington Post, I mused on the state of affairs relative to […]
Mothering vs Making Love
It’s been nearly a month since I read the article on Motherlode pitting parenting against passion. Allow me to clarify. Lisa Belkin was following up on “Fear of Flying” author Erica Jong’s recent ruminations on women and sex. Or lack of sex. Among younger women, younger mothers in particular, Ms. Jong notes an apparent lessened […]
Hidden Costs of Cohabitation
Do we really know what we should when it comes to living together?
JLo? Really?
Celebrity divorce news is hardly news. It seems that so-called Hollywood power couples jump in and out of marriages (and engagements, for that matter) the way most of us switch diets. The most recent split to catch my eye? Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony of course, announced earlier this week. Somehow this marital meltdown seems […]