Are you part of a non-traditional couple? Committed or married, but not actually living in the same residence as your partner? Living together can be tough. Very tough. I’m reminded of an early episode of Sex and the City, in which Sarah Jessica Parker’s Carrie asks her love interest, Mr. Big, what his ideal living […]
Good Driver, Bad Passenger?
Do you consider yourself a confident driver, but not reckless? Skilled at night, and smart in treacherous weather conditions? Yet you squirm when you’re not behind the wheel, right? Good driver, bad passenger. So what does that say about you? About your leadership style? Need to lead? Are your driving habits one more sign of […]
Real Housewives of OC: Why are we still watching?
So what is it with these women? We know they aren’t “real” real housewives, and we know reality TV edits heavily to give us a provocative view. It’s voyeurism + gossip, with a dash of envy and a dollop of disbelief. Most of us are weary of real impacts to our much “smaller” lives in […]
Why Must We Marry?
Why must we marry? Scandalous little question, isn’t it? Flies in the face of convention! After all, we’re past the 60s and early 70s. We’ve tossed away our peace symbols and sitar music. Am I proposing free love? Romantic anarchy? Hardly. But in my cozy neighborhood of writing cohorts-in-crime, and we’re a mighty varied group, […]
Pregnant Pause After “Mr. Good Enough”
I usually make a morning stop for an entertaining read at Dads House, where I am met by the perspective of a single dad who talks about parenting and sex, cocktails and sex, internet dating and sex… Well, you get the picture. But this single dad is also keenly aware (and opinionated) when it comes […]
Thanks! WE Magazine 101 Women Bloggers to Watch!
Dear WE Magazine for Women, I’m not sure how you found me – but I thank you for doing so! I’d like to express my appreciation for being included in your “101 Women Bloggers to Watch in 2010.” I’ve placed my writing award in the upper right region of my sidebar, to remind me to […]
Where Do Women Stow Their Violent Selves?
Women feel rage, too. Do we turn it inward, and self-destruct?
Yes, no, and finding balance
I have a bad habit. The fact is – I have many, but this particular bad habit is quite literally detrimental to my health. No, it isn’t smoking or drinking. It isn’t substance abuse of any sort. It’s simpler than that, and so much more complicated. I don’t pay enough attention to me. Too busy […]
Parenting is sloppy
I woke early, remembered four extra teen boys sleeping in my house – somewhere – and stopped by one of my favorite spots, trying to hold off on that first dose of caffeine. I dropped in at Kristen’s place, Motherese, where there was a particular cookie. And it looked delicious, and perfect, and made me […]
The restorative powers of sleep. (Not.)
Sleep, with all its remarkable restorative powers – to renew, to recharge, to dream. Then we wake refreshed, and begin a new day. No. There are no restorative powers of sleep for me, only restless legs, flailing about, waking repeatedly, disturbing dreams. The morning. Too soon. A knock on my door. It is not yet […]