The key to getting through a bad day? A superb glass of wine at the end of the day may enable you to unwind – just a little. But to make it through? While the-day-from-hell is in process? You need great people. Or as Blanche DuBois might say, the kindness of strangers. Yesterday was a […]
Close Call
Yesterday did not go as planned. Not even close. I set out on a routine day, with a list of tasks, a schedule, and my usual resolve. Then everything went awry. I cannot discuss the details – but let’s just say that my next days – or more – will be filled with the irritation […]
End of the Year Clearance on Complaint Monday!
You’re sitting in your office trying to make peace with your inner pout. You’re trying to remember where you put the last of the Christmas cards. You’ve got to jam just one or two more holiday errands into the lunch hour. OHMYGOD will you remember to tip the mail carrier and the mechanic and the […]
Stigma
It used to be illegitimacy. Or abortion. Or divorce. Stigma was attached to actions that were overtly or tacitly unacceptable. The consequence was banishment from the fold. Being shunned by those whose approval you wanted. Whose love you needed. Some of the reasons may have shifted, but stigma remains a part of western culture. Children […]
The Problem with “Positive Denial” is Denial
Positive attitude is one thing. Denial is something else again…
Moderating Optimism
Are you an optimist? A pessimist? A pragmatist? Can’t say I much like labels. And I strongly dislike labels that tend toward mutual exclusivity in the way people slap them on their foreheads and parade about. Or slap them on the next guy, and judge. Personally, I’m pessimistic about individuals stepping into another’s shoes, and […]
Avoidance
Avoidance or procrastination? Let’s be clear. Avoidance is not the same as procrastination. Avoidance is a fine art unto itself. A coping strategy. No 12-step program is required. I am avoiding the email account I use for “dating.” Thus, I don’t have to deal with the issue of Date Night Guy. I am avoiding calling […]
Do You Know Your Body’s Rhythms?
Do you feel bound to the tides, to the moon, to rhythms that stretch beyond your body but are part of it? Do you recognize when you’re hungry, when you’re tired, when your emotions are worn beyond expressing? Or for that matter, when you’re feeling terrific? Women, health, and well-being “Bound to the tides and […]
Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans…
Never assume. It’s one of the rules I live by. Never assume. It has served me well. But now and then, I forget that dictum that’s opened doors, helped make wise decisions, and kept me a little more prepared for an unknown future. After all, the future is always unknown. John Lennon said it: “Life […]