I thought this would be easier, but I’m struggling. I had planned to write my “Five Year Plan” in keeping with Kristen’s wonderful idea to reflect on our past, our present, and our futures so we may also recognize how fortunate we are to have a future. And in doing this, to spread the word […]
Self Censorship
“God, she’s trashy.” Stop. That’s a terrible thing to say. Shaking the head. Clucking the tongue. Pursing the lips. It’s all unconscious – this physical manifestation of disapproval. And something deeper. Anger. No, more than anger. Outrage. “Well it’s true. She bad mouths everyone. You’d think she’d realize how classless it is. And people pay […]
The Seduction of Small Victories
Even small victories in our daily lives – as parents, as people – bring satisfaction.
Do You Fight Fair?
You’re dying to let loose and say what you really think but the words aren’t pretty so you’re biting your tongue. Whatever it is – you don’t say it. Because if you do – you can’t take it back. And you know that fighting fair is a sort of winning, in and of itself. Fighting […]
The More You Do, The More You CAN Do
Productivity breeds… MORE productivity?
Nice Guys Finishing First? Maybe It Means Raising Different Daughters
I came across another one of those articles on why nice guys finish last, and reading through the list of reasons – always good for a chuckle – I found little to agree with, and a sizable missing piece. First, to the typical description of the “Nice Guy,” and the reasons he seems to finish […]
Four-Minute Mom
My firstborn has called several times since college started, when he chooses, and just to chat. I never know when his number will pop up on my cell, but it’s every few weeks or so, and always a pleasure. As for my younger, it’s been a different story. I told myself there would be no […]
Blind Spots
Oh, those first days and weeks of falling in love! Perhaps it’s with your infant, as you hold her in your arms and breathe that miraculous scent of new life. Maybe it’s a man who sweeps you off your feet and the air is sweeter, colors more vibrant, and you find a bounce in your […]
The Testosterone Tumble
Here’s a provocative piece of news that came out earlier this week and gives me pause – and not applause. Apparently, testosterone plunges in men who actively exercise Daddy duties. Say what? The New York Times offers its interpretation of this (disturbing?) data on maleness and fatherhood, and a “politically correct” spin which I find […]
Where The Boys Are
It’s not that empty nest doesn’t have its advantages; it does. I worked on my monthly budget last evening. The straight-off-the-top out-of-pocket expenses that I can now eliminate are significant. Very significant. Which makes it crystal clear that the estimates of $1,000/month per child (to raise them) are – or were – very low, in […]