We zoom in to enlarge the font on our computer screens. We zoom in to find our homes on Google Earth. We zoom the view on our cameras; then we tweak our images to improve the picture. What’s a few pixels among friends, right? We zoom to aid exploration and discovery, with our telescopes and […]
There’s Living, and There’s Writing About Living
“We’re living together,” he says. “What do you mean?” He touches my elbow. I stop and turn back to him. He slides me out of the way as an older woman eases past with her cart. His eyebrows are raised and his face is open. “Well, aren’t we? We’re together when we wake up. We’re […]
The American Man – Broken or Spent?
Men cheat. But is it inevitable, is infidelity ever acceptable, and what can women, make that wives, actually do about it? Is it really true that a good man is hard to find? Ask most single women — including unattached single mothers — and I believe they’ll say yes. So what do we think? Is […]
Peccadilloes
Some words are oddly likable. Their meaning may not stick, but the sound rolls around your mouth amiably. Last night I was reaching for a word that escaped me. I pictured Spanish food, with meat and olives. But no, that wasn’t it. Then I visualized thin paper bands in gold and red – the kind […]
Romance Racetrack: Time or Timing?
Some of us have been off the market for awhile. The dating market, that is. And we’re daunted at the thought of plunging back in – or even sticking a baby toe in the worrisome waters of social interaction. I’ve had my own experiences in and out of the post-marital dating pool. And if you’re […]
Easy to Love
Sheepishly. Brazenly. Blushingly. That’s how I’ll fess up. In the past few months I’ve been dating. Actually dating. And strange as it is to say the words, I’ve enjoyed myself. While I was legitimately concerned about aging out of the relationship marketplace, I’ve been pleasantly surprised. I’ve experienced a few astonishingly awkward advances, blistering boredom, […]
Vulnerable
Do you remember the first time you fell in love? Or perhaps, the most recent? Do you recall the complex cocktail of emotions involved – not the least of which is awareness of your vulnerability? What about the loss of appetite? The dreamy distractions? Too little sleep? We all know it’s impossible to predict the […]
Connection, Communal Living, and the Future
It may have been the second or third time I saw the show that I realized: communal living – family, friends, once-upon-a-time strangers – maybe this is the answer. The answer to keeping excitement in a household. The answer to empty nest. The infusion of energy and array of attitudes to fight the urge to […]
Are You Emotionally Needy?
Differences in relationship style may be perceived as “neediness.” Or, maybe they are neediness.
Be Careful What You Wish For
Is it love? Is it money? Is it just a day or two to yourself? Is it something harder to generalize, impossible to articulate, or too private to admit to? Do you have a foolish little dream – or a glitzy big one – something from childhood – shelved and dusted off, shelved again, only […]