“What do you do for fun?” he asked. I was taken aback. Really taken aback. I don’t remember the last time anyone posed that question. And it’s not unreasonable, when you’re just getting to know someone. The context? A phone call – a friend of a friend sort of thing – and all very pleasant. […]
Butting Heads
I miss stormy. Okay. I’ll rephrase. I miss occasionally stormy. It isn’t what I experienced in marriage, and at the time, I thought that was a plus. Of course, things were rocky at the end, and that’s to be expected. But the relationship itself seemed to run smoothly. Quietly. We rarely fought. If anything, we […]
Are You Selfish In Your Relationships?
There’s selfish, and self-interested. Do you know the difference?
Doubt
A child takes her parent’s hand at the age of two or three, with confidence. She looks up and smiles. She doesn’t doubt; the world assures her that her parent will hold on tightly, and keep her safe. But no one stays a child forever. The world is complicated. We learn to move beyond ourselves […]
Woman to wed… herself
How could I pass up this little nugget? It’s a news item plucked from msnbc.com concerning a Taiwanese woman who is apparently planning an unusual wedding next month. Her spouse-to-be? Herself. While Chen Wei-yih cannot marry herself legally, she intends to do so symbolically – right down to the wedding dress, the wedding planner, the […]
Is Romance Dead?
Defining and understanding… romance.
Send Me No Flowers
The power of the flower… and a little old fashioned romance.
Momentary Musings on Lee Remick, Betty Draper, Beauty, and Intimacy
Cool blondes. Very Hitchcock. Last evening I was zapping around on cable and came across 1968’s The Detective, with Frank Sinatra and Lee Remick. I had forgotten the blue of Sinatra’s eyes, and more mesmerizing – Lee Remick, with her girl-next-door appeal, her reserve, and the smoldering sexuality just beneath. I thought immediately of Mad […]
Who do you trust?
When I wrote about the film, Closer, I was intrigued by the fine line between honesty and dishonesty, genuine connection and its simulation, and the ways in which we deceive ourselves when we love. There is nothing more fascinating – to me – than adults dealing with each other. Men and women, interacting. The issue […]
Men and Women. Coming Closer.
Let’s hear it for cable! And for delicious films that we may never have seen when they were released to the theaters. Like Closer – an unexpected treat I enjoyed last night, so effectively constructed that I watched it twice in succession. Closer The characters are stunning. The dialog is smart and raw. Each of […]