How much do you know about your teenager’s social life? How much does he or she know about yours? I can’t remember ever catching one of my sons in a furtive lip lock. (I suspect that both are smart enough to retreat to the leafier areas of our yard, to their rooms, or to a […]
Deal Breakers
A list of non-negotiables before marriage, and maybe after.
Pacing Yourself
Why you should take your time in a relationship – if you care about it.
The Truth, And Nothing But The Truth
I’m on record, so to speak – against denial. At least, against the sort of positive denial that keeps men and women in dreadful relationships, or teetering on the edge of making necessary decisions about their future, rather than taking the plunge. That plunge may be in or out – but it’s approached with due […]
The See-Saw or the Tug-of-War?
Have you ever tried the see-saw? Do you remember the pleasure of riding up and down, up and down – but only enjoying it if your friend on the other side was of similar size and weight? When the balance is a mismatch, you are more likely to pop up in a jerky fashion (and […]
Play Nice
What do we say to our kids when they’re bickering over nothing, but seemingly unable to stop? What do we say when they are stubborn, squawking, and convinced they are right, endlessly fuming at each other? What do we say on the playground, in the classroom, around the kitchen table, in the back seat of […]
Give Marital Advice? Who – ME?
How marital advice from a divorcée may be just what the doctor ordered.
What Makes a Woman Tick?
It’s only fair, right? Isn’t it time to examine my own side of the gender gap? So what makes a woman tick? Weird science Now why is it that when I set myself the task of elaborating on what makes a woman a woman, the first word that popped into my mind was biology. And […]
“… and the women who love them”
A literary psychologist on what makes a man tick…
Bleeding Hearts
The healthy heart Those three little words aren’t always enough. We need more than “I love you,” we need less than “I love you,” we need talking and listening and actions of give and take. The more holes punched into your heart, the more it bleeds and the less you are able to share with […]