Trusting your gut when it comes to first impressions… or not.
Do You Fight Fair?
You’re dying to let loose and say what you really think but the words aren’t pretty so you’re biting your tongue. Whatever it is – you don’t say it. Because if you do – you can’t take it back. And you know that fighting fair is a sort of winning, in and of itself. Fighting […]
Friction
Oh, those little differences that grate…
The Nature of Obligation to Yourself (And Your Spouse)
I have marriage on my mind this week. Or more specifically – what makes it work, what causes it to crumble, and what increases the likelihood that any committed relationship will thrive. I have the nature of obligation on my mind as well: what we owe ourselves when it comes to who we are and […]
Missing the Marital Mark
Success, failure, and musing on marriage.
Trusting What You Hear
Do you trust what you hear from your loved ones?
Nice Guys Finishing First? Maybe It Means Raising Different Daughters
I came across another one of those articles on why nice guys finish last, and reading through the list of reasons – always good for a chuckle – I found little to agree with, and a sizable missing piece. First, to the typical description of the “Nice Guy,” and the reasons he seems to finish […]
Relationship Approach: Strategy or Serendipity?
He shows up with a dizzying armload of flowers, and behind them – his mischievous smile I’ve come to adore, the one that lightens everything that crazies me, the one that makes me want to drop whatever I’m holding as I take his face in my hands and kiss him, then kiss him again, and […]
Blind Spots
Oh, those first days and weeks of falling in love! Perhaps it’s with your infant, as you hold her in your arms and breathe that miraculous scent of new life. Maybe it’s a man who sweeps you off your feet and the air is sweeter, colors more vibrant, and you find a bounce in your […]
Good Riddance to Bad Habits
Viewing toxic relationships as bad habits… that you can break.