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10 Things I DON’T Need To Feel Great (Or Rich)

July 31, 2013 by D. A. Wolf 15 Comments

What if the best way to zero in on what we have – and appreciate it – is to consider what we don’t? What if we list all the things we see around us and desire, but we don’t need?

Louboutin Iriza Pointed-Toe D'Orsay PumpNaturally, our “don’t need” items may fall into a variety of categories – some are luxuries, some are qualities, some are what an elder aunt of mine used to refer to as “I need that like I need a hole in the head…”

Here are 10 things I do NOT need to measure my “success” in any way, much less to feel great about who I am, how my life is going, how I look, or how I face the future. Then again, it doesn’t mean I don’t value them, admire them, or even covet a few of these items, which is different from needing them.

10 Luxuries (and Other Things) I Don’t Need… Maybe

Shall we begin with the exquisite treasures one might encounter turning the pages of Vogue, Elle, or Harper’s Bazaar?

Shoes, Shoes, My Achilles Heel… Shoes

What about the Christian Louboutin taupe boots, as seen in August 2013 Harper’s Bazaar? Can we all take slow, deep breaths, and sigh as we whisper “exquisite?”

I do not need them, I do not need them, I do not need them… Let’s rephrase. I do not need to spend $1,600 or more on boots. I would have to take out insurance on my footwear! Wait, maybe I need to do that already. What about the Iriza red pointed toe pumps as an alternative, at Neiman’s or Bergdorf’s for a mere $625? Could I put those in the “need” column?

And what about a marvelous Manolo? Any Manolo would suit my fancy. A nice 90 mm classic BB? A more comfy 70 mm? A magnificent mule? A sensational slingback? Oh, so many opulent options, oh so many delectable dreams…

The Cozy Getaway

Furry Bear Slippers and BooksI do not need a cabin in the mountains. As charming and relaxing as many appear (in my favorite decorating and design magazines), I admit that I am not the outdoorsy type. I enjoy viewing towering pines on the Big Screen (or small), or in passing from the highway.

Moreover, I’m terrified of bears unless they happen to be furry bear slippers on my tootsies in the winter.

Besides, I need reliable – dare I say it, invincible – wifi.

Wardrobe Malfunctions

My assets are ample enough, my décolletage most arduously under control, but my cups do runneth over on occasion – as yet not to the degree of an outright wardrobe malfunction.

I do not need a wardrobe malfunction!

While any nip slip or other such reveal may result in promotional benefits for the celebrity set, I say again: I do not need a wardrobe malfunction. Especially if I’m participating in a Google hangout.

‘Nuff said.

Illness Inconvenience

I do not need a nosebleed when I’m about to kiss my loved one. I do not need eye strain when I have eight hours online ahead of me. I most certainly do not need laryngitis when scheduled for meetings, conference calls, or wishing to nudge (nag), guide (guilt), coax (coerce), or otherwise discuss any topic with my children.

Been there. Done that. Dreadful!

And all of the above (afflictions) fall into the “I need that like a hole in the head” category!

Fashion Fun

I am all for fashion fun, though I have plenty to entertain me by shopping in my own closet. As to one of my favorite indulgences – chic glasses – while I adore my red specs and love love love trying on eye wear – hey, I met a terrific man as a result – I do not need more glasses, though I consider them a delightful and versatile accessory.

Still, there were these purple frames I can’t get out of my mind…

French Lingerie

I do not need (more) French lingerie.

Wait. Scratch that. I do need it. Desperately. NOW.

(Anyone have a spare ticket to Paris? My fave boutique awaits, and gravity does invoke its requirements. And isn’t luscious lingerie a delight? Bonjour, Aubade… Bonjour Simone Perèle…)

Guilt (Especially Mom Guilt)

Frustrated WomanConsider this a replacement for the “slip” on French lingerie. I don’t need guilt. More guilt. Mom guilt. Any kind of guilt, which continues to creep into consideration of the things I wish I could do for my sons that they need – yes need – but I cannot. I am not geographically, physically, or financially positioned to assist or participate in certain ways, it frustrates me immeasurably, but I must stop kicking myself for that.

I also need to stop feeling guilty about not giving enough to others who reside in my heart, when there’s only so much of me to go around. I need to do a better job of putting myself first, and clearly stating what I need.

But it’s hard. Very hard.

Approval, Popularity, “Group Love”

I do not need the approval of strangers – and on this one, I’m very serious.

I know those whose opinion matters to me, I know my strengths and weaknesses, I balance informed input with experience and my own judgment. Think about this one – do we really need all those likes, follows, and the approval of strangers – often measured in our social media popularity?

Mystery, Mystery, Mystery

I do not need more scarves, though I am of the (fashion) school of thought that a woman can never have too many foulards, écharpes, and other fabric fancies to wrap around her neck and shoulders. They make for a new look and even better – a bit of mystery when you peak and play from within their folds.

Then again, I have a sufficient number of scarves to perform the Dance of the Seven Veils four times over… Now if only I could do so while wearing those red pointed Louboutins.

Still, every woman needs her moments of mystery – however she chooses to achieve them.

The Urban Getaway

Street in Old NiceA pied-à-terre in Manhattan. As delicious a thought as that is (museums! galleries! the theater!), I’d exchange it for a small space in Old Nice, tucked behind a colorful façade. Or better yet, a studio in Paris. Now that I need.

For my soul. And there’s no way to convince me otherwise.

Do I need it to feel great about my life or myself?

Naturellement, that’s a no. But it sure sounds good to me all the same.

Material Girl?

I do need money, but I don’t need piles of it. Nor do I need boxes of baubles, a flashy car, or square footage that shouts “Here I am!” While all of this can be lovely for some more than others, and I wouldn’t say no to the select and memorable item, I don’t need any of it to feel good, much less rich.

Books? Yes. Art, especially if created by my son or friends? Definitely.

Health? Family? Love? Meaningful work?

Yes to these, most of all.

What don’t you need to feel good, to feel beautiful, to remind yourself of the essentials that you do need to feel fabulous?
 

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Comments

  1. William Belle says

    July 31, 2013 at 2:23 pm

    “Street in Nice, France.” May wee, Madame Loup!

    Reply
  2. Kristen @ Motherese says

    July 31, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    Hey, I’ve got an idea. Let’s all buy a fabulous getaway in some fabulous destination – you get the studio in Paris, I’ll get the pied-à-terre in NYC, someone else can take the piney (but bear-free) mountain retreat – and then we’ll set up an elaborate time share system where we can all trade and travel to our hearts’ content?

    Deal?

    Too expensive? Hmm…how about something like Netflix, but for scarves? 😉

    Reply
    • D. A. Wolf says

      July 31, 2013 at 4:25 pm

      I like that first idea, Kristen. Think we can manage to finance it with a world wide bake sale?

      Reply
  3. Rob says

    July 31, 2013 at 3:28 pm

    It seems blasphemous, to hear you say, you don’t need shoes. But, now I know what you treasure more than shoes.

    I thought I’d play along with my own list of ten items I don’t need.

    I don’t need make-up and fancy clothes to feel beautiful. I feel most beautiful when I can be myself – inside and out.
    I don’t need a smart phone. Something that I can talk and text on is fine. I am actually considering giving up my smart phone.
    I don’t need Cable TV – I really don’t need it. I want it. What would I do without every season of Survivor?
    I don’t need a microwave. I don’t even know how to use the thing, so I don’t know if that counts.
    I definitely don’t need to be sick.
    I don’t need mosquitoes. Who does?
    I don’t need to be stuck in traffic that turns a 3 hour trip into a 6 1/2 hour trip.
    I don’t need a watch. I can tell time with my phone. This one probably doesn’t count either.
    I don’t need to go out to dinner – where someone else cooks the food, serves it to me, and then cleans the dishes.
    I don’t need the Dentist! Oh wait…I do need the Dentist. But I wish I didn’t.

    Reply
    • D. A. Wolf says

      July 31, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      Love this, Rob.

      Anyone else care to join the fun?

      Reply
  4. Deja Vow says

    July 31, 2013 at 4:08 pm

    I need a clean room with a sunny window and a comfy reading spot. I need it for my soul.

    I don’t need a huge mansion, or drama, or passive aggressive putdowns. And mostly, I don’t need the push-pull of a love-hate relationship dynamic.

    Reply
  5. lisa thomson says

    July 31, 2013 at 5:43 pm

    I don’t need makeup ( although I love mascara)
    I don’t need expensive clothes (although I love cashmere)
    I don’t need guilt (but I have it anyway)
    I definitely need the studio in Paris…dreaming

    Reply
    • D. A. Wolf says

      July 31, 2013 at 6:19 pm

      @Lisa, We might need to pool assets for Paris… I’m thinking more than a few of us need a little recreational time in the City of Lights!

      Reply
  6. Dominique says

    August 1, 2013 at 3:15 pm

    I don’t need ANYONE else’s opinion/marketing as to what it is I do need 🙂

    Reply
    • D. A. Wolf says

      August 1, 2013 at 3:23 pm

      Ah… That’s what I love to hear, Dominique. (Not that you needed me to say it.) 😉

      Reply
  7. Barbara says

    August 1, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    What I don’t need?
    1. Wal-mart. It’s a place and a language all its own.
    2. Negative people.
    3. Family guilt.
    4. Milk chocolate….what is that? Dark chocolate – yes!
    5. A big home – I mean – come on! I live in a 400 sq foot home on wheels. It’s enough. It’s better.
    6. To travel far to see beauty. It’s usually at my feet – or within arm’s reach.
    7. A church to attend. But a place for my spirit – essential.
    8. One more excuse to be undisciplined.
    9. commercials on tv – or at the movies.
    10. Tea. Because I have coffee.
    11. Diet Pepsi. Because I have Diet Coke.
    12. Pretty hands. Because mine are not. But they serve me so well.
    13. To wash my hair every day. Thank God for that.
    14. Watermelon or any melons. Because I have peaches and blackberries, raspberries and plums.
    15. Wine. Because I have vodka and tonic.
    16. Limes. Because I have lemons.
    17. Someone, anyone, to tell me not to always bring it around to food.

    You, D.A., are always so more than worth the stopping by!

    Reply
    • D. A. Wolf says

      August 1, 2013 at 9:43 pm

      What a fabulous list, Barbara! (And thank you for those good words at the end of a very long day…)

      🙂

      Reply
    • Rob says

      August 1, 2013 at 10:56 pm

      Barb,
      This is great! I love your list, too!
      Rob

      Reply
  8. Heather in Arles says

    August 2, 2013 at 9:42 am

    Just what I needed today. Actually, that almost always seems to be the case here! I can’t begin to top the other lists so I won’t even try but will just add something that I think will make you smile: I DID the dance of the seven veils in a small theatre in NYC and it is mighty chilly when that last one comes off! 😉
    Ooh, I can think of something to add
    1) I don’t need manipulative people or vampires of the non-blood-sucking kind.

    Reply
  9. lisa says

    August 5, 2013 at 1:55 pm

    Um….I need those red shoes. 🙂

    Great list. If we were honest with ourselves…and our budgets…we’d be surprised at the things we don’t need to be happy. I’ve found that when we look to “things” to make us happy, it’s never enough. There’s always something better waiting in the wings for our devoted attention.

    Reply

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