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October 14, 2011 by D. A. Wolf 16 Comments

I’ve already expressed my opinion that size matters.

I’ve indicated, time and time again, that I believe in the necessity of men with big hearts.

Not big wallets, not big titles, and surely not big egos.

Yes, I adore tall men and used to insist on dating men over six feet. I felt more feminine, which says something about my self-esteem in my twenties and thirties, and how it’s evolved. The fact is, I love the big heart more, along with big brains, heaps of humor, and confidence.

And none of that requires a specific stature.

Besides, I’m a Little Woman. And I like it that way.

I confess – I’m glad that I married tall; my sons have certainly benefited from that, and we  know that height for a man in this culture can provide a distinct advantage.

Real World Beauty

But let’s talk real world women for a moment, and how we define beauty. Doesn’t beauty come in all sizes, shapes, hues, and styles – not to mention, ages? (And if you have any doubts, pop over to Tish Jett’s fabulous series on women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. Be sure to page through the week – celebrity women over 50, as well as the rest of us.)

Can appearance be a deal-breaker? Particular features or body parts? Weight? Height?

Naturally! We’re all visual. We might as well admit it.

But we also know that confidence is essential. Humor and smarts, to some of us, even more so. And then there’s charisma and chemistry – that something we can’t quite put our finger on, an inexpressible magnetism, the je ne sais quoi that some women radiate from the inside, which doesn’t mean they ignore the exterior, but they have far more to offer than wrapping on the package.

They are the package.

Height of Absurdity

So why is it that height for women is increasingly important? Why are we experiencing the continuation of a fashion trend turning women into Amazons by adding five, six, and seven inches in massive platforms and exaggerated spikes? What is this phenomenon about – really?

I’m all for gorgeous gams enhanced by hottie heels, but I thought this seasonal style would run its course and then go the way of so many others. It’s not that all the platforms we see are unwieldy, but many are heavy, horrible, boot-like constructions that take hike-em-up heels to horrid extremes. And I mean horrid!

We all like to step into someone else’s shoes from time to time. But are women feeling some need to be “bigger” than ever before? To tower over each other, over the men, or over our problems?

Fashion Statements, Social Malaise?

I recall reading about how hemlines hiked or dropped according to the economy, or our faith in the economy – shorter skirts when things were on the upswing, and longer when they weren’t. Or maybe it’s the other way around. Since the 70s, we have minis and maxis and everything in between, so it seems to me those old guidelines went out the window along with a good deal more about 40 years ago.

Shoulder pads were another indicator of taking charge, getting serious, and tending to business.

We had the 1940s (thank you, Rosie the Riveter, and likewise, Joan Crawford) and a revival in the me-me-me moneyed 80s. Likewise, we wore platforms in the 40s and the wedge variation in the 70s, and both are back with a vengeance for “mainstream” women, have been for awhile now, and taken to a curious extreme. 

But why?

Why in the past 18 months or so do women feel compelled to go gargantuan?

Beauty or Beast?

Suffer for beauty or fashion?

It’s nothing new. We have the history of the corseted 18″ waist (eek!), the boned brassiere to lift those boobs (ack!), the nip, the tuck, the truckload of cosmetics. And you know what? I love my feminine clothes and my statement accessories, my luxurious lingerie and my Dior mascara.

But I’m a little woman and I embrace it. I’m just under five feet tall (ahem), and in most of my heels (yes even my sassy sneaks with a 3″ wedge) I reach 5’3″ and that’s perfectly fine.

Besides, big men love little women – and when you’re my size – most men feel like big men, so there are definite advantages.

In the working world? I certainly had to make my presence known in other ways than walking into a room. And I learned – quickly. When you know your stuff and you’re confident in your abilities, stature has nothing to do with size.

Passion for Fashion, and then there’s Passion 

Shouldn’t fashion be playful, a means to express ourselves, and appropriate to our various roles?

But this bizarre height-hike? Is there a message in this? Some way in which women are compensating for feeling powerless, frightened, or the old familiar “not good enough?”

Is it about the economy, our roles in society, something to do with the battle of the sexes when getting along with each other really could be about men and women playing nice – and loving every minute of it we can? Our culture has long put short men at a disadvantage; is it now “uncool” to be a short woman?

A passion for fashion is one thing, but can you pursue your passion in life if you’re ready to topple over or, for that matter, you yield to trends that don’t suit you – all in the name of pop culture compliance or slavery to so-called style?

Yes, I have one lovely pair of platforms – five inches of extra height, and I rarely wear them although they’re pretty and comfortable. I have so many others I prefer – three or four inches (max), an elegant (and feminine) heel, and allowing me more ease with who I am now. And that means “big” in the ways that count – and bien dans ma peau, as a Little Woman.

 

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Comments

  1. Madgew says

    October 14, 2011 at 10:21 am

    Great article today. You always are on the cutting edge.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 14, 2011 at 10:29 am

      And you always make me feel like taking the time to write every day is worth it! Thank you, Madge. Truly.

      Reply
  2. Jack@TheJackB says

    October 14, 2011 at 11:14 am

    I have a friend who is 6’7 who used to date a woman who was 5 feet tall. She looked a little bit like a hand puppet next to him. He wasn’t a skinny 6’7 either, he was quite broad- looked like a wall that walked.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 14, 2011 at 11:19 am

      Love it, Jack!

      (But what do you make of this continuing trend in women wearing 5″ or 6″ or more – to be taller? EEK!)

      Reply
  3. Linda says

    October 14, 2011 at 2:59 pm

    Interesting perspective. I had never thought about the latest platform/stiletto craze like that. I have had to a buy couple pairs of these “monster” shoes for occasions and was quite surprised how comfortable they were… for short periods of time. But I also think unless you know how to properly walk in these shoes without looking like a toddler learning to walk… try something a little shorter. I’m from California, give me flip flops anytime!

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 14, 2011 at 4:26 pm

      “Monster” shoes. Perfect term for them, Linda!

      Reply
  4. bleu says

    October 14, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    Hey there! Long time, no read! Lovely to see your post and I too am on the shorter side of things. I’m 5’3 (and a half). My ex was 6’2 and I totally use to be into extremely taller men. Now I open to dating anyone who can see me eye to eye with my high heels on! LOL.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 14, 2011 at 9:54 pm

      Bleu! How nice to hear from you! Ditto on the expanded “height range.” I went from an ex who was 14″ taller to anyone who doesn’t wear my heels! (Kidding.) I’m with you – If we can see eye to eye with me in my heels, we’re good!

      Reply
  5. Shelley says

    October 15, 2011 at 11:29 am

    I’m 5’2″ & 3/4! I’ve worn heels as high as 3 and 4 inches, but at 55 and retired, this is not in my plans anymore. Even when I was working, really high heels would not have been a sensible option. I needed to walk around my office to talk to people or I was taking public transport and needed to be able to walk and stand for reasonable periods of time. I would only consider really high heels for a party event – where I’d be sitting most of the time. However, when we go to social events where there is alcohol in the cards, we take public transport. Here in Britain I see young girls wearing extreme platform shoes and they mince along trying – and failing, I think – to look sexy. Their boyfriends look bored with having to wait for them. They can’t afford taxis but they want to dress as though they can. The thing is, I see this as being a trend which cripples women. They lose their mobility and if that’s sexy then it’s sexy because it promotes the idea of a dependent woman, or one who is prepared to make desperate concessions to attract a man. I think it’s a bad way to start a relationship, pulling a guy on that basis. Tall men can be attractive, for some obvious reasons, and tall women can be as well – but so can ‘little’ women. I look forward to sensible shoes being in style again.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 15, 2011 at 1:26 pm

      I admit, Shelley – I run around barefoot plenty, but I love my heels! I still find them comfortable, and throughout my corporate career I was up and down and all around in a 3″ heel on a regular basis. Perhaps it’s a matter of finding styles that fit well, or maybe I got lucky in the Little Woman Feet department. I certainly agree with you on how awful those extreme platform shoes can be. UGH-ly. (And it sure doesn’t look like the girls / women wearing them can walk very easily.)

      Reply
  6. LisaF says

    October 15, 2011 at 11:27 pm

    At 5’3″ I am somewhat vertically challenged. I do wear he 3-4″ heels most of the time. But I prefer the term, Pocket Rocket. 🙂

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 15, 2011 at 11:51 pm

      Pocket Rocket. That’s adorable, Lisa.

      A quirky Russian musician I once dated long, long ago, in another time, another city (and another set of footwear styles) used to call me “карманная женщина” which means “Pocket Woman.” I always found that delightful.

      Reply
  7. Mutant Supermodel says

    October 18, 2011 at 1:29 pm

    OK I’m giggling. I’m taking a pole-dancing class and have been doing so barefoot. But I think I’m going to have to buy the shoes because my feet keep getting bruised. And of course, the only shoes suitable for pole-dancing? Why 6″ stripper heels of course with at least a 2″ to 3″ platform 😉

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 18, 2011 at 1:37 pm

      Pole dancing! Good for you Supermodel! (And I hope you’ll write all about it on your blog!) As for the platforms – be careful out there!

      Reply
  8. teamgloria says

    January 16, 2012 at 2:17 pm

    Ah.

    Delicious.

    “Charisma and Chemistry”

    The best.

    *shiver_of_delight”

    And it is always so unexpected and Vivid when it arrives.

    In RL we are not little. Sort of just above average.

    Here, as a virtual being, we like to think teamgloria is tiny and Awfully cute and wears the sort of adorable heels that Charlotte in SATC swooned over.

    _tg xx

    Reply
  9. Privilege of Parenting says

    January 17, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    And I like women with tall hearts (and while I’m glad I married tall, so that my boys can tower over me) I’m with you as I mature and see the size of hearts (like yours) ahead of all other facile signifiers. As Ben Franklin said about dating older women that all cats are grey in the dark, perhaps all hearts are big when safe and loved.

    Reply

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