Is wanting things done a certain way all about “control?”
Affection, Generosity, Sex (and Coffee)
Is a good marriage as simple as a cup of coffee? Could a buoyant Breakfast Blend be construed as foreplay – if poured at the right time and served by the right hands? According to the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project, the importance of generosity toward our spouses is not to be underestimated. It […]
Fiddling
He considered himself a fiddler, a military man, and I knew him as a wonderful storyteller. His passion for life was contagious, but his greatest passion was for music. For some reason, I’ve been thinking about my grandfather this weekend. Perhaps it’s because I’m planning on fiddling around, just a little. ‘Tis the season to […]
Self Censorship
“God, she’s trashy.” Stop. That’s a terrible thing to say. Shaking the head. Clucking the tongue. Pursing the lips. It’s all unconscious – this physical manifestation of disapproval. And something deeper. Anger. No, more than anger. Outrage. “Well it’s true. She bad mouths everyone. You’d think she’d realize how classless it is. And people pay […]
Rabbit’s Foot
Thoughts on lucky charms and their powers to reassure.
Sentimental Fool
These days I travel with wads of Kleenex at the ready. Or toilet paper. Or napkins. I’m tearing up at the drop of a hat. Misty over big things, like my son’s scholarship to college. Over small things, like an innocuous remark. A photograph may set off a chain reaction – recollections of my boys […]
Swept Up In Yes
Have you ever run out on an errand – something dry and uninteresting – that turned into an absolute pleasure? Are there moments when you set aside your checklists and your jammed schedule, allowing yourself to be swept up in yes – the yes to conversation, yes to coffee, yes to the momentary marvel of […]
Be Careful What You Wish For
Is it love? Is it money? Is it just a day or two to yourself? Is it something harder to generalize, impossible to articulate, or too private to admit to? Do you have a foolish little dream – or a glitzy big one – something from childhood – shelved and dusted off, shelved again, only […]
Essentials: Anything Goes in the Name of Art?
Health + Family + Relationship + Work. Essential to a good life, don’t you think? Of course, you may wish to rearrange the sequence to reflect your circumstances or values. Some of you may add in “faith” or spiritual inclination. As for myself, I would include a roof overhead and food on the table, without […]
Kelsey and Kayte: Happiness at any price?
I’m harping. Can’t help it. This particular celebrity divorce (and subsequent engagement) has gotten under my skin. In part, because I feel no sympathy whatsoever for the wife, Camille Grammer, fully cognizant that the (sur)Reality lens distorts, and we really don’t know much about her. Me Generation, Part Deux? But I’m appalled at parading around […]