As an adult child of divorce, at times I wish my marriage had survived until my sons were grown. I imagine they would have been spared pain. Then again, knowing what I know now, I believe they will be better off in the long run because it was I who raised them. My own parents divorced after 30 […]
Slicing the Onion
You know the recipe by heart and you move through the preparations as usual. You grab the red onion and slice through its textured flesh with a practiced hand. You begin the quick business of cutting rings or dicing squares, and your eyes begin to burn, to tear uncontrollably, and you’re caught off guard. So […]
Theory of Relativity
As the school year comes to a close (almost there!), I can’t help but look back, question what I might have done differently, assess the coming months, and anticipate – with worry, and wonder. My summer looms with increased expenses at a time I can ill afford them. It also entails expectations as I find […]
Coming Out of the Closet
Roller-coaster moods. Stomach in knots. Can’t eat. What could it be? Hormones? Nope. One week to go until all the exams are over, and then comes graduation. I’m worried about logistics (the ex coming to town) – and of course, I want everything to go well for my son. I need my therapy: chocolate, Paris, […]
Sentimental Fool
These days I travel with wads of Kleenex at the ready. Or toilet paper. Or napkins. I’m tearing up at the drop of a hat. Misty over big things, like my son’s scholarship to college. Over small things, like an innocuous remark. A photograph may set off a chain reaction – recollections of my boys […]
Romance Racetrack: Time or Timing?
Some of us have been off the market for awhile. The dating market, that is. And we’re daunted at the thought of plunging back in – or even sticking a baby toe in the worrisome waters of social interaction. I’ve had my own experiences in and out of the post-marital dating pool. And if you’re […]
Baby Bump? Try Budget Bummer!
I know several women who have recently given birth, and others who are expecting babies. I couldn’t be more delighted for them. In each case, they are mothers (already), and devoted ones at that. Babies are always happy news. Giving life is an incredible experience, and parenting – filled with wonder. But the realities of […]
Tic Toc Goes the Clock (Women Freezing Their Eggs?)
Women and their clocks. If only there were a way to stop that damnable ticking. Who says a woman is defined by biology, anyway? The Pill took us part way there, so why not a means to extend the period of time we might bear children? Maybe by a decade. Possibly longer. How’s that for […]
Single Parent? Mommy Track? No Spring Chicken?
The mommy track trap, especially for older (single) moms.
Pick Your Moments
When it comes to effective communication – especially with kids – discretion can certainly be the better part of valor. In other words, don’t embarrass your children in front of their pals, think before you speak, and pick your moments – carefully. The same could be said for spouses, co-workers, or friends, but they’re adults […]