What do we say to our kids when they’re bickering over nothing, but seemingly unable to stop? What do we say when they are stubborn, squawking, and convinced they are right, endlessly fuming at each other? What do we say on the playground, in the classroom, around the kitchen table, in the back seat of […]
Give Marital Advice? Who – ME?
How marital advice from a divorcée may be just what the doctor ordered.
“… and the women who love them”
A literary psychologist on what makes a man tick…
Bleeding Hearts
The healthy heart Those three little words aren’t always enough. We need more than “I love you,” we need less than “I love you,” we need talking and listening and actions of give and take. The more holes punched into your heart, the more it bleeds and the less you are able to share with […]
What Makes a Man Tick?
Seeking to understand the opposite sex.
Giving Shape to Invisibility
Giving shape to invisibility. I plucked those evocative words from a writer I’ve recently discovered, Wolf Pascoe at Just Add Father, and the reference comes from this: When I was eight, my father died suddenly. My mother never remarried. As a result, a good part of my life has been defined by what was missing. […]
Open to the Future
It’s been quite a year. On every dimension that I value or that keeps this household afloat – emotionally, physically, financially – I will say it again: it’s been quite a year. Last year I dared to write a letter to the new decade, imploring the universe to grant a bit more light. This year […]
Kelsey and Camille (Why does their divorce offend me?)
Yes, I watch Bravo. No, I haven’t joined a 12-step program if there is one. Yes, I’ve admitted my problem, but I’m not planning on rectifying it anytime soon. And I confess: I am a viewer of some of the Housewives, including a backward glance at the perpetually petulant crew from Beverly Hills. Every time […]
What Do You REALLY Want in a Relationship?
Knowing what you want is key to getting it. Especially in love.
The Zone
Your kid’s eyes are glazed over because it’s after three a.m. and he’s still working, and your eyes are glazed over because it’s after three a.m. and you’re still working, and while you’re the mother you remember being the kid – hanging on with everything you’ve got to pull it out at the end of […]