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Bashing the Body Beautiful

August 19, 2013 by D. A. Wolf 4 Comments

I’m standing in front of the fridge, door open, taking inventory.

Salma Hayek Golden Globes 2013I’m not hungry, but I want comfort food to alleviate stress as emotions square off against healthy habits.

I close the fridge. I wander back to the chair where I’m working.

I picture my body when I misbehave with food. I imagine how good I feel when I’m responsible about eating.

These are familiar battles, old arguments, tiresome images I invite or chase away as needed. I conjure a recent photo of Salma Hayek, her curves contrasted with a tiny waist, her voluptuous body that seems to have it all and it goes without saying, her exquisite face.

To me Salma Hayek is the epitome of beauty.

This morning I’m distracted by my skinny jeans. They were loose two weeks ago, and tight over the past few days. I walk to the fridge again and scan. I shut the door and brew more coffee.

Beautiful Bodies, Morning Manifesto

I have Polaroids of my mother and grandmother, lipstick and pearls in place, full skirts accentuating their hips, Playtex bras reshaping their breasts.

They appear in scenes from the 40s and 50s, and in my childhood memories from the 1960s. These were times when a pretty face could be round, thighs more ample, and a woman’s flesh was praised for being soft rather than angular, comforting rather than frail.

I think of Marilyn Monroe, Sophia Loren, or the undeniably gorgeous Christina Hendricks. If we hadn’t gotten to know her in her role on Mad Men, would we perceive her in a different light? Does she bash her beautiful body?

Beautiful Body with Womanly Curves TorsoI didn’t intend it to be what it became but the words poured out – a plea to myself and to other women, a plea to cease cursing the reflection in the mirror, a plea to admit to wasting years and precious moments, a plea to accept the natural swells of our bodies, a plea to put more store in who we are, what we accomplish, how tenderly we love, how ferociously we protect.

And thus the bargain, the rant, the confession, the incantation, the manifesto – the desire for all of us to proclaim ourselves “the body beautiful” – to set aside obsessions with size, to revere the flesh we joyfully inhabit, to take ourselves back, to own ourselves, to dwell in our moments of pleasure.

Definitions of Beauty

In the middle of the night, I’m watching black and white films from the 1930s. The chorus girls have full thighs, J-Lo hips, arms that are anything but skeletal sticks.

How have our definitions of beauty changed since that time?

As Discovery Health puts it, “thin is in.” Molly Edmonds writes:

Beginning in the late 1800s, the word “diet” started to creep in to our vernacular, and at first, dieting advice was only aimed at men because women were expected to be voluptuous… As the decades went on, a little extra flab became something to be ashamed of, and slender became the figure to strive for… both men and women seek to be thin, sometimes through extreme methods such as disordered eating, unhealthy amounts of exercise and plastic surgery.

I’m thinking of my mother and her lifetime of battles with weight.

I’m thinking of myself and my lifetime of battles with body image.

Ideal Body Type?

Salma Hayek?

Sexy legs Black heels bwI find her stunning. Talented of course, but I’m speaking of beauty, of a womanly body, of pride in how one looks, of knowing that you incite desire, of comfort that I imagine she feels in her skin, though I can’t know if she does.

Don’t some of the world’s most gorgeous women disparage their body parts like the rest of us?

There are times when I’m unselfconscious in my torso and my limbs, moving gracefully, moving strongly, and unaware of anything but how my physical self serves me, accepting of the occasional aches, the pain from injuries, the softening, the slowing, and likewise the speeding up when I’m excited, enthused, engaged in an activity, an intellectual pursuit, a passion.

My ideal body is ultimately the one that keeps me whole and functioning – my body as it is. This imperfect body, my body beautiful.

 
Image of Salma Hayek, Golden Globes 2013, Bigstockphoto.

 

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Filed Under: Celebrities, Entertainment, Health, Style Tagged With: beauty, definitions of beauty, emotional eating, Salma Hayek, sexy celebrities, style, the fat issue, women and body image

Comments

  1. lisa thomson says

    August 19, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    Wonderful post and reminder, DA! Thanks you for this. I often do not practice what I preach. I stand in front of the mirror and say something negative but I’m trying to STOP that for good. Part of loving ourselves is loving the physical self, too. For me, Yoga has really helped me connect to and see my body for its beautiful capabilities. There are no mirrors in my yoga class which is even better as I don’t focus on what I look like while practicing, but how I feel. I love all of those voluptuous women you mention and their curves.

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  2. Curtis says

    August 20, 2013 at 12:48 am

    DA I am not sure why all women seem to do this. I am not sure it is a comfort or upsetting to know, but I knew a person in my 20’s that was often in the fashion magazines and even covers of magazines like Vogue. She was stunning, but always concerned about something not being right or perfect. I think this affects all women regardless of age and looks. As a father of girls I find this concerning.

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  3. Ana says

    August 20, 2013 at 1:42 am

    i too am conflicted about this. Sometimes I am happy with my body, pleased that it does what it is supposed to do. It’s a great source of pleasure in bed for me and my husband as well. What’s not to like about that? But then other days my clothes are tight and I just want to fit into my jeans again. I’m always on some diet or other that stops things going too far. Home all day with the fridge for company doesn’t help – there’s always food calling out to me when I’m trying to avoid doing any work LOL

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  4. Missy June says

    August 20, 2013 at 10:41 am

    As a young woman, I had occasional thoughts that perhaps my thighs were too full or my bottom more large than ideal. I always worried my breasts were too small. Yet the experience of being admired allowed me to be comfortable in my skin, even when Hollywood and magazines demonstrated that what I had was not in fashion. In marriage, I felt much rejection and came to believe my body was undesirable, a turnoff and generally a problem. For a time, I dieted and tried to change it, then gave up and let it get much worse. Eventually, I learned to appreciate being healthy and being a mother taught me I was enough – enough to carry and birth babies, nourish them, serve them. My health mattered more than my appearance, although the appearance improved with my healthier habits. As a single mother, it became important to take care of me and to demonstrate healthy habits to my children. After all, they weren’t going to learn exercise and nutrition from anyone but me.

    In this middle of life, I find I’m much more comfortable in my skin, yet the aging process brings cringes and I do fight it. I feel anxious when I don’t get to work out and chide myself when those jeans feel tight (which happens so easily these days!). My tummy will never be sleek and smooth, my bottom is more rotund than ever and my arms are much less than shapely.

    Recently, I was considering my reflection and said grumpily to my husband while wearing a sleeveless shirt, “I’ve just never have had toned arms.” “And most men never care,” he commented. My thought was to wonder if it was true? It seams toned arms are the measure of fitness among my similar aged peers?

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