What do we say to our kids when they’re bickering over nothing, but seemingly unable to stop? What do we say when they are stubborn, squawking, and convinced they are right, endlessly fuming at each other? What do we say on the playground, in the classroom, around the kitchen table, in the back seat of […]
Archives for 2011
Give Marital Advice? Who – ME?
How marital advice from a divorcée may be just what the doctor ordered.
What Makes a Woman Tick?
It’s only fair, right? Isn’t it time to examine my own side of the gender gap? So what makes a woman tick? Weird science Now why is it that when I set myself the task of elaborating on what makes a woman a woman, the first word that popped into my mind was biology. And […]
“… and the women who love them”
A literary psychologist on what makes a man tick…
The Hemingway Model: A Man’s Man
A “man’s man.” When I hear that expression, I think of Ernest Hemingway. Not of his literature, but his persona: the man who lives hard, the man who loves hard, the rugged man who can live off the land, who is unafraid to fight, who womanizes without apology. That is the Hemingway myth, or perhaps […]
Bleeding Hearts
The healthy heart Those three little words aren’t always enough. We need more than “I love you,” we need less than “I love you,” we need talking and listening and actions of give and take. The more holes punched into your heart, the more it bleeds and the less you are able to share with […]
Aging Out or Giving Up?
The dating-go-round. Maybe we just age out…
The Defection of Affection
Have we forgotten the importance of affection? A quick embrace, an earnest hug, or the tenderness of taking someone’s hand? In our week days that seem to drag on as we count down to the next afternoon off, the next getaway, the next morning to sleep late; in our schedules in which we allot 60 […]
What Makes a Man Tick?
Seeking to understand the opposite sex.
Standing Up
Women are frequently more comfortable than men when it comes to expressing emotions, and discussing our inner lives and evolving roles. For some time I’ve been trying to find male voices – those who write beautifully, lucidly, and openly about their discoveries, their doubts, their relationships. I’ve stumbled upon a few (you know who you […]