You’re dying to let loose and say what you really think but the words aren’t pretty so you’re biting your tongue. Whatever it is – you don’t say it. Because if you do – you can’t take it back. And you know that fighting fair is a sort of winning, in and of itself. Fighting […]
The Nature of Obligation to Yourself (And Your Spouse)
I have marriage on my mind this week. Or more specifically – what makes it work, what causes it to crumble, and what increases the likelihood that any committed relationship will thrive. I have the nature of obligation on my mind as well: what we owe ourselves when it comes to who we are and […]
Trusting What You Hear
Do you trust what you hear from your loved ones?
Why We Sometimes Pick a Fight
Fighting, when we don’t mean to.
Appealing to Audience Appetites
Zeal and appeal over keeping it real?
One Picture’s Worth A Thousand Words (Maybe)
We all know the expression “a picture is worth a thousand words.” And we use it to mean that seeing is often far superior to any written or oral communication. But is it – really? Aren’t some people capable of hiding their emotions behind an otherwise calm exterior? And what about photographs? Do they genuinely […]
No Knowledge
It was an odd night of even odder dreams; an odd night because I slept eight hours (exceptional), and odd dreams as I found myself sitting behind a massive wooden desk, part of a management directive to motivate my staff with plastic boy toys. Now, now – not those toys. Strange morphing, scoping, bending wheeled […]
Doubt
A child takes her parent’s hand at the age of two or three, with confidence. She looks up and smiles. She doesn’t doubt; the world assures her that her parent will hold on tightly, and keep her safe. But no one stays a child forever. The world is complicated. We learn to move beyond ourselves […]
Who do you trust?
When I wrote about the film, Closer, I was intrigued by the fine line between honesty and dishonesty, genuine connection and its simulation, and the ways in which we deceive ourselves when we love. There is nothing more fascinating – to me – than adults dealing with each other. Men and women, interacting. The issue […]
With a Little Help From My Friends
Technology trauma Yesterday was rough. Very rough. It took more than five hours to write simply, about simplicity. What’s not to love about that? And I struggled through those hours, trying to avoid a total emotional meltdown due to a serious software snafu beyond my control. I persisted; stubbornness can be an asset. I wrote […]