• Home
  • About
  • Around
  • Contributors
  • Applause

Daily Plate of Crazy

  • Relationships
    • Dating
    • Love
    • Marriage
    • Divorce
    • Life After Divorce
  • Parenting
    • Advice
    • Babies and Kids
    • Tweens and Teens
    • College Kids
    • Single Moms
    • Older Moms
    • Dads
    • Family Dynamics
    • Money Matters
    • Work-Life
  • Health
  • Sex
  • Women’s Issues
  • Fashion & Style
    • Chaussures
    • Fashion
    • Style
    • Lingerie
    • Interiors
  • Culture
  • More
    • Art Art Art
    • Business
    • En Français
    • Entertainment
      • Mad Men
      • Mad Men Reviews
      • Real Housewives
      • Movies
      • Celebrities
      • Work of Art Reviews
    • Flash
    • Food & Recipes
    • Lifestyle
    • Morning Musing
    • Starting Over
    • Technology
    • Travel
    • Women and Money
You are here: Home / Culture / How Language Reinforces Stereotypes: Outdated Terms With Sexist Baggage

How Language Reinforces Stereotypes: Outdated Terms With Sexist Baggage

June 2, 2015 by D. A. Wolf 1 Comment

Couple After Exchanging Offensive LanguageLanguage is a powerful indicator of underlying cultural values. More specifically, it reinforces gender stereotypes. Consider this example from the Public Editor at The New York Times, as she took on the topic of “mistress” as an outdated term a few months back. This occurred after readers wrote in, taking exception to its usage in a Times article.

Think about it. Why do we give a special label to women who engage in extramarital affairs, yet there is no such term for men who do the same? Aren’t these terms perpetuating stereotypes?

Margaret Sullivan writes:

… Language evolves… Words come and go… I propose… a shove to hasten the departure of “mistress” from news stories describing a modern-day woman having an extramarital affair.

Hallelujah!

Outdated Terminology

Specifically, Ms. Sullivan’s comments pertain to usage of the word mistress in stories about General David Petraeus and the woman he was involved with, Paula Broadwell.

She cites one reader who wants to know:

… if The Times “could summon up a less archaic word that didn’t demean the female by her sex or her gender.”

Ms. Sullivan expresses the dilemma as follows:

… One problem is that there isn’t really a perfect word here. “Lover” is probably a little better… But “lover” doesn’t necessarily convey the idea that one or both partners is married to someone else. And it, too, has a bit of a romance-novel tone that isn’t perfect in a news story… A longer description is probably best, but not always easy or practical in a headline or a lead paragraph: “the woman with whom Mr. Petraeus, who was married, carried on a secret sexual relationship …”?

Duly noted. Also noted — Ms. Sullivan’s hope that “mistress” will nonetheless be retired.

Gender Stereotypes Are Alive and Well

In searching for language that reinforces stereotypes of women as being lesser in some way (or possibly, morally bankrupt), I find Verily addressing degrading terms like slut, bitch, and others that have become such common parlance as to be shrugged off by many. Are these a different matter? Accepted in some circles and more odious in others? And which is worse – when women apply these labels to each other, or when they’re applied to women by men?

African American Female ChefEveryday language also offers theoretically gender-neutral terms that are only used with women, these terms with a slight (or definite) derisive undertone. An excellent example of this is “bossy.” We never describe men (or boys) as bossy, but rather as strong, confident, and decisive. Women (or girls) who exhibit these same leadership qualities are often deemed bossy by those who don’t like them, or resent working under a woman’s supervision.

A similar phenomenon occurs when women display their anger, justified or not, slapped with the “emotional” label, as if all reason for their ire is to be dismissed. Frankly, aren’t we all emotional at times? Isn’t it healthier to let out those emotions, depending on the circumstances?

I have another word to add to the mix. Shrill. Would we ever use this term for a man whose voice is demonstrating an excited quality?

Sexist Language We Need to Reconsider

The Gloss provides a list of sexist terms and hashtags as well: perky, bitchy, hormonal, mousy, feisty (among others)… along with their suggested male equivalents, some of which I find far-fetched. They are (respectively): go-getter, asshole, hot and cold, average and tenacious.

Personally, I don’t mind perky, though its cuteness diminishes authority, whereas go-getter is straightforward and positive. Say “perky” and I think Gidget — fresh-faced, inexperienced, and not to be taken seriously.

Bitchy versus asshole? I’d say that’s apples and oranges, and I’d take the former over the latter if I had to, and I’d say that ill-tempered might be a better equivalent.

Being on the receiving end of the term “hormonal” is a slap in the face, as if a woman’s behavior is purely governed by biology, the implication being that this isn’t true for a man.

Mousy does indeed strike me as gender-specific and suggesting timidity along with plainness, while feisty is a word I’ve used to describe myself — dare I admit using “feisty little broad” for humorous effect — and previously, had no issue with. Then again, I’ve also used the word tenacious to describe myself and other women I’ve known.

Another term comes to mind, which I’ve rarely (if ever?) heard applied to a man: the P word, promiscuous. We do so love to skewer our women for expressing their sexuality, don’t we?

A Matter of Habit? Conditioning? Tired of Fighting Sexism?

Even more common than the use of bitch, bossy, slut or the term Ms. Sullivan took up the pen to address, mistress, is one that irritates me no end. I’m speaking of the oft-cited “dear.”

Let me be as plain-spoken as possible when it comes to these offenders: Don’t call me dear, honey or sweetheart — unless you know me personally and are over the age of 85, or… maybe, just maybe, you’re wearing a waitress uniform and your name is Flo.

When a woman says NO she means NOThe fact is, language and personality are inextricably linked, we are shaped at least to a degree by the words used to describe us, and “sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me” is utterly untrue.

This topic leads me to mention sexist ads, which I’m all too accustomed to ignoring, perhaps out of weariness. After all, we have to pick our battles, and like most of us I’m inured to many of the offending media images. However, when the tables were turned in this Adweek handling of sexist ads recast, I’m reminded to pay closer attention, and I hope my male friends and colleagues will do so as well.

Any gender-specific terms or expressions that get under your skin?

 

You May Also Enjoy

  • Can a Woman Be Too Strong?
  • DON’T Call Me Dear!
  • Politically Correct
  • Screwed (Are Sexual Stereotypes Alive and Well?)

 

FacebooktwitterpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterpinterestlinkedinmail

Filed Under: Culture, Women's Issues Tagged With: Culture, gender bias, gender roles, Language, leadership, New York Times, psychology, sexism, stereotypes

Comments

  1. THE VINTAGE CONTESSA says

    June 10, 2015 at 8:07 pm

    I just un-SUBSCRIBED myself to an Instagram account as she uses the word MY DEAR To frequently and with much older women! CAN’t stand it either!
    SAME PAGE……..
    As for no words for men playing around………………THAT IS VERY INTERESTING! I can think of a few!!!!!!!!!

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

 

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Follow Us

FacebooktwitterrssinstagramFacebooktwitterrssinstagram

Search Daily Plate of Crazy

Subscribe for Your Daily Serving

Enter your email address:

Delivered by FeedBurner

Categories

Archives

Recent Comments

  • Anonymous on Does Effort Matter If You Don’t Get Results?
  • D. A. Wolf on Mantras
  • D. A. Wolf on Over 50, Unemployed, Depressed and Powerless
  • Marty on When You Marry a Loner
  • Tina on Would You Brag About Your Age?
  • Sal on Over 50, Unemployed, Depressed and Powerless
  • Open More Doors If You Want More Skills - 3 Plus International on Open More Doors If You Want More Skills
  • Leonora C on Over 50, Unemployed, Depressed and Powerless
  • Maree on Mantras
  • kate on DON’T Call Me Dear!
  • Stephanie on Narcissism. Manipulation. Keeping Score.
  • S on When a Couple Wants Different Things

The Makeover Series

Daily Plate of Crazy: The Makeover Series

Essays From Guest Writers

Daily Plate of Crazy: Essay Series

Daily Reads

Daily Plate of Crazy Blogroll

Follow

Follow

Notices

All content on this site, DailyPlateOfCrazy.com, is copyrighted by D. A. Wolf unless copyright is otherwise attributed to guest writers. Do not use, borrow, repost or create derivative works without permission.

© D. A. Wolf 2009-2025. All Rights Reserved.

Parlez-vous francais?

Daily Plate of Crazy: En Français

© D. A. Wolf 2009-2025
All Rights Reserved

Daily Plate of Crazy ™

Privacy Notice

Popular This Month

  • 50 Years old and Starting Over
  • Best Places to Live When You're Over 50 and Reinventing
  • When the Person You Love Is Emotionally Unavailable
  • When a Couple Wants Different Things
  • How to Comfort Someone Who Is Stressed

Food for Thought

  • Why I Choose to Think Like a Man
  • When You Marry a Loner
  • Emotionally Needy Parents
  • Sex vs. Lovemaking: Why Are We So Confused?
  • Think Looks Don't Pay?
  • Rebranding Mediocrity: Why Good Enough Isn't Good Enough

Copyright © 2025 · Metro Pro Theme on Genesis Framework · WordPress · Log in

This site uses cookies for the best browsing experience. By continuing to use this site, you accept our Cookie Policy.
Cookie SettingsACCEPT
Manage consent

Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience.
Necessary
Always Enabled
Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. These cookies ensure basic functionalities and security features of the website, anonymously.
CookieDurationDescription
cookielawinfo-checkbox-analytics11 monthsThis cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics".
cookielawinfo-checkbox-functional11 monthsThe cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional".
cookielawinfo-checkbox-necessary11 monthsThis cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary".
cookielawinfo-checkbox-others11 monthsThis cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other.
cookielawinfo-checkbox-performance11 monthsThis cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance".
viewed_cookie_policy11 monthsThe cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. It does not store any personal data.
Functional
Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features.
Performance
Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors.
Analytics
Analytical cookies are used to understand how visitors interact with the website. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc.
Advertisement
Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with relevant ads and marketing campaigns. These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads.
Others
Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet.
SAVE & ACCEPT