I still have a navy blue sock filled with pennies picked up from sidewalks and curb sides. The coins are dented, discolored, and scarred around the edges. But they marked my childhood belief in, well… I’ll just say it… luck.
I must have a hundred of them, or maybe more. And even an Indian head nickel or two among them. I generally found them on a walk – and was certain of my eventual good fortune as a result.
As simple as a found penny. A lucky penny.
Some of my friends carried a rabbit’s foot – a tiny paw with silken hair, typically attached to a key chain. The boys especially seemed to swear by its powers. But I was horrified at the very thought, and preferred my harmless lucky coins. That, and adherence to the wisdom of stepping over sidewalk cracks, avoiding ladders, and the occasional search for a four-leaf clover.
Don’t we all seek to control the unknown? To ward it off, or protect against it? Why not the lucky penny or the rabbit’s foot?
As for those four-leaf clovers, they weren’t as plentiful as lost change. Now and then there were a few good enough for picking, and I would ceremoniously affix them to an index card with Elmer’s glue or scotch tape. But they’re long since gone and only a flicker of memory; there are no tangible traces among my grade school report cards, or the black and white Polaroids from the 1960s of myself and friends, in pinafores and Peter Pan collars.
But those lucky pennies? I’ve kept them. Safely stored in that worn sock.
Positive Attitude vs. Luck
And those who insist there is no “luck” – that positive attitude makes all the difference in the world?
Now, now… let’s not get carried away. Naturally I was taught that a smile was preferable to a frown, that you catch more flies with honey, that optimism is always helpful, and positive energy aids achievement. But the essentials? In my upbringing?
Hard work and determination – both, the idols that warranted worship in my mother’s household.
“If you set your mind to it and work hard, you can do anything.” That was the mantra, the message, the means to accomplish any mission. Very American, don’t you think?
And happiness in that equation?
It wasn’t discussed or dissected. It wasn’t among the objectives, but certainly it was assumed that we would want to be happy. That we could be happy – without defining it, without expecting it.
And fate?
It was the fallback, the filler, the insufficient cushion when work and persistence didn’t yield the desired result. Then, surely fate had its hand in requiring acceptance. “It wasn’t meant to be” were the words extended – to ease disappointment – not so different from the approach of my French friends who love to say il n’y a pas de hasard – there is no such thing as chance.
But what of luck?
In my mother’s home, it wasn’t talked about, as if it were taboo. Yet she hung a 19th century horseshoe over the back door. There were rituals to do with heritage as much as superstition, though the word “luck” wasn’t spoken per se, like some missing link. Of course children cling to the concept of luck as they do to magic; they seek it out, cherish its symbols, test its limits. I know my own children believe in luck, and know that luck and hard work are not mutually exclusive.
While it may not be fashionable to admit – who doesn’t have the lucky bracelet to be worn on a hot date, the lucky tie to close the big deal, or the comforting routines before a performance of any sort?
What about the wishbone, the shooting star, blowing on dice, the favorite number? Don’t many of us put stock in the ascribed power of objects and amulets, words or actions, digits and dates – unwilling to risk leaving them behind?
Second Chances, New Lives, Make Your Own Luck
Recently, I had discussion with a friend about life and the unknown. The best laid plans – and then, reality. There are those who believe it’s all a crap shoot, those who believe in the hand of God, those who believe it may be a mix. There are those who believe in people – and that little is within our control except our own behaviors.
Some pronounce that every individual can make his own luck – and the rest of us (who don’t) – well, that’s our problem. Worse, that’s our doing. And often, making one’s own luck is tied to attitude. If we have the wrong attitude, then of course we’re unlucky, we’re unhappy, we’re unsuccessful – and it follows that our desires remain out of reach.
But what about tragedies that happen to good people? Inexplicable disasters?
And what of their neighbors who sail through life with only the “usual” ups and downs?
I see no rhyme or reason in any of it. I also observe the diversity of beliefs and responses – those who wallow and never recover; those who reinvent themselves and go on.
Might some have a stash of four-leaf clovers? Lucky pennies? The rabbit’s foot hidden under the mattress? Why do some keep going and “succeed” – however you define it – while others know no happiness, and seem to fade away? Is it luck? Character? Work? Attitude?
I have no answers, but I’m glad to know the whereabouts of my worn blue sock all the same.
- Do you believe that hard work will get you where you want to go?
- Do you believe in luck, in random happenings, in fate or some other plan?
- Does attitude make the difference between success and failure – however you define it?
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Madgew says
I used to make these designs where I would scribble lines and color them in with all the colors in the Crayon box and give them to my parents and sister. When my Dad died 8 years ago he still had one in his wallet. I was in my 50’s. He always thought it was good luck as did I. Thanks for the morning memories. Now I just have favorite things and I carry a locket of my best friend who died 13 years ago from cancer. We were friends for 42 years and I miss her every day. It is now my lucky charm. I also believe in fate. That is from high school when a friend’s father missed a plane that crashed and then the one he went on crashed as well. That has stayed with me. My walk through memory lane this morning.
BigLittleWolf says
Extraordinary, Madge. Thank you for sharing this.
notasoccermom says
So many memories of searching for four leaf clovers, breaking the wishbone every Thanksgiving, and yes, I had a rabbit foot. But I don’t think it was real as it was bright blue.
My mother will pick up every penny she sees, heads up are better. She says they are kisses from her mother in heaven whom she lost at the young age of forty when my own mother was a new bride.
What about blowing the dandelions?
I will continue to wish and dream and carry on with my silly superstitions. As I write this I can see the old horse shoe I found buried in my yard, propped up (with the opening up so the luck doesn’t pour out) against my front door stoop. And I still avoid a lot of cracks in the sidewalk and don’t walk under ladders or open umbrellas before going out. Because you never know!
Pj Schott says
Yes. We make our own luck. We are ready when opportunity strikes. Can’t believe I used to have a rabbits foot. The thought of that now is enough to give me nightmares.
Lisa says
I’m not one that believes in luck or coincidences. I guess I’m an anomaly since I don’t find myself looking for pennies and 4-leaf clovers, wearing a lucky piece of jewelry or wishing on stars. Likewise, I don’t believe in the ever-popular prosperity gospel either. Fate? For me that is just another name for the divine plan. Sometimes it coincides with my personal hopes and dreams. Sometimes it doesn’t. I guess the bottom line is I put my well-being in the hands of a higher being, but do everything humanly possible with the gifts I’ve been given to make the most of life on my end. And, therein lies the attitude question. Don’t you wonder how some people can have a positive attitude and be happy despite horrific circumstances? Likewise, it seems that some people who have it all…including a bad attitude…are never happy. It all depends on what you value deep in your heart.
BigLittleWolf says
Beautifully stated, Lisa.
Kelly says
I’m a believer in a mixture of things. For me, the goal is not to find luck or see myself as a player in a larger plan, but to position myself for good things. I work hard, I repeat my mantras, I am impeccable to my word, and I operate with the best intentions. Shit still happens, but I’m better prepared for it and I don’t allow the bad times to obscure all the many positive forces in my life.