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Midlife (And Magical Thinking)

June 24, 2011 by D. A. Wolf 5 Comments

Midlife madness?

Never went through it. No string of affairs, no taking up bungee jumping, no lifting my boobs or making them bigger (or smaller). No buying myself a hot little red MG.

I know, I know. I’m showing my age on that one. But then – I’m talking about age. Midlife! Women at midlife!

Have you hit your midlife? Would you know it if you had? Do you think you’ll go crazy?

Some put midlife at 40.

Nah. I say go with 50. At 40 you’re still full of piss and vinegar. You’re hot stuff. You’re pre-perimenopausal (sorry guys). You’re a Spring Chicken!

But hang it up at 50. You can still be hot stuff but there’s no more pretending. No Magical Thinking. You’re middle-aged, so embrace it – no matter how old you look, how young your kids are, and how much dermabrasion you’ve shelled out the bucks for.

My Mirror, Myself

How I look at middle-age these days isn’t in the mirror. It’s in accomplishments, energy stores, goals yet to imagine, probabilities of having time. When I do gaze in the mirror, it’s through my puffy eyes in the morning, or rifling through the medicine cabinet for Motrin to ease the ache in my lower back.

Facing Oneself in the MirrorAnd then I move on to the kitchen and my laptop. To coffee and words, to stirring the pot, to reconsidering myth. And other mirrors – things I must face. Empty nest for one. The damned AARP envelopes that keep arriving, for another. The need to drill for more energy.

The bills. Always the bills.

And the hard, cold realities of midlife, money and marital status… not to rain on my own parade.

Community and Comparisons

Communities are coming to mind – the delights of mixing up age groups, of sharing stories, of helping others. Being helped by others.

Last weekend, on Father’s Day, I lunched with a gentleman friend of 60, his  mother of 83, his son of 24. I loved every minute of it – the stimulation of varying perspectives, the sparkle of enthusiastic exchange, the exquisite lines – each hard won – on the face of a very beautiful older woman. 

Options for communal living are coming to mind. Responsibilities. Challenges.

My own parents have passed, but I have friends who are dealing with elder care and dementia. This woman I mention is fit, elegant, and easy to converse with. She has moments of lucidity, and others that are muddled. But humor and language enliven her. Socializing is good for her.

Socializing is good for all of us.

I am reminded that midlife is not old age, that my spotty memory at moments is not dementia but fatigue, stress, hormones, and yes – the natural progression of aging.

As is wisdom, if we’re attentive. As is compassion, if we look beyond ourselves. As is a shift in priorities and lifestyle, by virtue of both.

And at midlife though I am, I know this is a complicated stage, a grieving stage, a refocusing stage, a good stage – if I hang onto this: There is so much to look forward to.

Little Pleasures

In my morning (online) reading, I came across 3:00 am musings on midlife – by Amy Ferris. (If you don’t know her, she’s the wonderful author of Marrying George Clooney – and hey, girlfriends! He’s on the market again!) Clooney aside, Ferris impeccably points out that she, too, is at midlife. She seems to relish the realization, in all its murky splendor, and writes:

So here’s to us: the bold, audacious, strong, gorgeous, talented, and powerful women who are proving that 50 is fabulous and mid-life is no longer a final destination, but an express subway stop.

I return to my bathroom cabinet.

Survey the meds. Only two.

I dot moisturizer on the laugh lines, a little gloss on my lips. Not bad for a sleep-deprived middle-aged momma who’s still kicking, still hoping, still a moderate optimist… even without the MG.

 

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Filed Under: Health, Lifestyle, Morning Musing Tagged With: aging gracefully, beauty, midlife, mirrors, older women, sexuality at midlife, women and beauty, women over 50

Comments

  1. Marie says

    June 24, 2011 at 11:36 am

    OMG, you did it again! Captured my life exactly in your words. Mid-life is just that. It’s the middle of our lives, which means we have the whole second half of our lives to fill with everything we didn’t do (or even want to do) in the first half. I for one am excited to see what comes next. Cheers!

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    • BigLittleWolf says

      June 24, 2011 at 11:40 am

      Exactly! So nice to hear from you, Marie.

      Reply
  2. Contemporary Troubadour says

    June 24, 2011 at 12:59 pm

    Some of my favorite conversations happen when multiple generations of the family are present. The enrichment of perspective in all the banter, the do-you-remembers, the when-I-was-your-age tales — doesn’t matter whose family; there’s always something special to each that comes out in its own way when such opportunities are at hand. I wish they weren’t so rare.

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    • BigLittleWolf says

      June 24, 2011 at 1:09 pm

      I couldn’t agree more, CT.

      Reply
  3. Rudri Bhatt Patel @ Being Rudri says

    June 27, 2011 at 2:46 pm

    “Socializing is good for all of us.” This point hit home especially since my mother moved in with me and the family. She left all her friends behind in TX (30 years of friendship) and just the other day she said, “I need to make friends in AZ.” I’ve noticed that she is more attentive and lively when around the company of others. So, yes, BLW, no matter what the age, companionship and conversation is crucial.

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