Positive attitude is one thing. Denial is something else again…
When Marriage Ends And You Don’t Know Why
Why a marriage ends: Sometimes not knowing is worse than knowing.
Parenting Is a Profession. Where’s My Paycheck?
Let’s stop devaluing the breadth of skills that parents bring to the table.
Why Must We Marry?
Why must we marry? Scandalous little question, isn’t it? Flies in the face of convention! After all, we’re past the 60s and early 70s. We’ve tossed away our peace symbols and sitar music. Am I proposing free love? Romantic anarchy? Hardly. But in my cozy neighborhood of writing cohorts-in-crime, and we’re a mighty varied group, […]
Something Like Marriage
A marriage. Or something like it.
Baptism by Bubble Bath (and Other Acts of Love)
I was thinking about my in-laws the other evening. I loved them, and haven’t seen them in nearly 10 years. They are a close knit family, grounded, smart, and unpretentious. We communicated in an amusing mix of languages, and got along well for more than a decade. I remember how proud my father-in-law was when […]
Married Sex! (An Oxymoron?)
Furtive phone calls, marital manipulations, stats on sex in marriage.
Bread Crumbs, Stale Crusts, Potions: I Don’t Talk About My Ex
They aren’t lies, exactly – the things I say to my children about their father. I don’t talk about my ex much – not with them, and certainly not here except obliquely. Yet you may sense him in the background. An occasional presence, a haze, a storm brewing. You
Remarriage Rules of Grammar: Past Imperfect, Future Conditional?
Oh, those French tenses! Imperfect, simple future, future perfect… If only life were that easy! I heard from a 40-year old colleague recently, about her upcoming remarriage. It got me thinking about pasts perfect and imperfect, present imperatives, and futures – of all sorts. And then of course – ghosts of marriage past. The woman […]
Loneliness. NOT a Dirty Word.
Loneliness is painful, but the shame we feel makes it worse.