Two words of advice, especially if divorcing: Never assume.
Cutting the Cord
As an adult child of divorce, at times I wish my marriage had survived until my sons were grown. I imagine they would have been spared pain. Then again, knowing what I know now, I believe they will be better off in the long run because it was I who raised them. My own parents divorced after 30 […]
What Do You REALLY Want in a Relationship?
Knowing what you want is key to getting it. Especially in love.
Role Reversal
There’s little question that if you ask me what my job is, I’ll answer “parent.” That doesn’t preclude the fact that I am a writer, and many other things; that my professional endeavors predated my maternal duties by more than a decade. But my primary job these days – as it has been for years […]
“Finding Ourselves”
Is “finding yourself” the right search? Is it the only one?
Numbers Do Not Lie
We’d been at it for several hours, side by side, each of us on our laptops. Spread on the small ottoman pressing against my knees were stacks of old tax forms. On the chair beside me, two more folders with notes and figures. We actually began the process days ago, but I couldn’t continue, and […]
Building Bridges
Reaching out a second time around can be an overwhelming challenge.
Parenting Is a Profession. Where’s My Paycheck?
Let’s stop devaluing the breadth of skills that parents bring to the table.
Painting Over
Our walls, ourselves, our children.
Courage
Sometimes our children surprise us. Really surprise us. I remember my older son defending his much littler brother against a bully, a kid who was beefier than both of them put together. But my first-born threw himself into the fray without hesitation, and got the bully to back off. Flash forward nine years. That bully […]