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Re Reading

December 8, 2014 by D. A. Wolf 6 Comments

I had lost the habit, and it was an excellent habit I could not ever have imagined abandoning. I was rarely reading, or at least, rarely reading for recreation.

Woman Reading on the SofaI chalked this up to years of interruptions as a single parent, stress (and an inability to concentrate), and sadly, the bad habit of zoning out through visual means when I finally had a moment to myself.

Perhaps I am being too hard on myself. My spare moments weren’t devoted to bad habits so much as emotional survival, which more usually entailed mind-numbing television late at night before bed, a quick laugh online, or a few pages flipped through a magazine.

Sound familiar?

Reading Is Habit as Well as Pleasure

As much as these momentary pleasures helped ease stress, I missed the more substantive satisfaction of reading novels. I missed long journalism. I missed engagement with a well-researched thought process or an imagination with the power to hypnotize.

For years, I only read fiction during one week of the year when I didn’t have my boys with me. During that week, I gave myself to sitting outside in the quiet, in the sunshine, and eating up every delicious plot twist, character nuance, and turn of a phrase.

Fortunately, even during those years, I never lost touch with poetry. You can enjoy verse in two minutes! And for that matter, it can serve as a potent mood elevator.

But I wanted reading to become habit again. How could I get back there – and not just for one week a year or the occasional short story gobbled up on a holiday weekend?

Getting Back to Reading: Re-Read What You Love

What I came to realize: The energy required to raise my kids, look for work and do work, and wrest some semblance of sense from all of it was impacting my ability to concentrate once the work day and parenting day was over.

I accepted the situation for awhile – finding relaxation in a classic film on TMC at midnight or paging through ELLE Décor at 6 a.m. – but I wanted my reading pleasure back.

It occurred to me to begin re-reading what I once loved – a passage here, a chapter there. So I stacked my favorite novels near my bed, many well worn, and literally read randomly from time to time.

It helped.

Making Reading a Habit

That was a beginning, but over the past year I have done more to make reading a habit in my life again. I want to share these tips because if they worked for me and you’ve encountered this same problem, perhaps they will work for you – or for a child.

And incidentally, in going through this process, I licked my concentration issues that were at least in part influenced by the way we tend to read on the Internet – a snippet here and a headline there.

I also realized that on some level I felt guilty if I was reading. Shouldn’t I be scanning the Internet for another potential gig? If not, shouldn’t I be exercising for 20 minutes? Should I rework my budget for the umpteenth time?

I have been so focused on emotional and financial survival for so many years that it felt frivolous to enjoy a book. How’s that for a light bulb moment?

Ways to Ease Back Into Reading

My tips and discoveries as I resolved to read more:

  • Poetry allows me something for every mood, and poems are quickly read.
  • Short stories can be enjoyed in 20-minute (or less) chunks of time, offer wonderful variety in style and subject matter, and are treasure we too often ignore.
  • Long journalism found in our favorite newspapers is reading pleasure in another register. I give myself two hours with The New York Times on Sunday mornings (the actual paper – tactile and pleasurable in itself). I continue to read throughout my Sunday as I can.
  • Time of day matters! I can process certain kinds of material best in the morning and others later in the day. Finding my rhythm of what works (and arranging it around my work schedule) has been an evolving story.
  • Discipline: All habits require routine and discipline, including re-establishing pleasurable habits.
  • I continue to re-read passages from favorite books by much loved writers.

Reading Makes Me Happy

Among my most important discoveries is this: Reading makes me happy. Job-related reading isn’t the same; it may be interesting, but it is, after all, work.

I also accept that there are times and circumstances that are more favorable to certain types of reading – poetry vs long journalism, for example. When I’m under extreme stress, I cannot manage fiction. I don’t know why, but I can’t enter it. Long journalism, on the other hand, is another matter.

Also a “reality check” factor: the extent to which we will be interrupted. I try to plan for it and not set reading expectations that are likely to be dashed.

Last, I use reading as a reward for myself – and only read high quality writing at that. Combined with a cup of coffee on the weekend (or tea at night), even if only for a half hour, it’s heaven.

 

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Comments

  1. Missy Robinson says

    December 8, 2014 at 1:48 pm

    Keeping a stack on my dresser (by the bed) helps me be ready to grab when the mood and occasion strike. When I give myself permission to start a fiction, I’m much more likely to return to it when I have even a few minutes…though I still like to find those longer minutes bunched together when I can truly escape for a while! I love it, and I miss it, too.

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  2. Missy Robinson says

    December 9, 2014 at 10:06 am

    PS – I intentionally picked up a novel last night, one I’ve previously enjoyed, just to encourage the habit. It was delightful and relaxing – thank you!

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  3. Elizabeth Titus says

    December 9, 2014 at 10:38 am

    I relate to this very much! A one-time English teacher, who switched to a job in corporate communications after getting an MBA at Wharton, books remained a major part of my life those 20 years of so … until my husband died at age 56 nearly eight years ago. Suddenly, I could not concentrate or read more than magazine articles. The solace I had always found in books was no longer there. Recently, though, I have returned to my library, going back to favorites authors, and more important, finding new ones, like Jane Gardam. I read one story at bedtime each night. She is 85 and started writing in her 40s and is a joy!

    http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/28/books/jane-gardam-on-her-books-which-capture-a-greater-britain.html

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  4. Thomas Farquharson says

    December 10, 2014 at 12:10 pm

    Technology has led me back to the books I always wanted to love. With an ebook reading device propped on the reading shelf of my treadmill, I have managed to finish some of the books I have always wanted to read but couldn’t quite bring myself to focus, stay awake and finish. Walking while reading is only possible to do safely on the treadmill. I have managed to read or re-read things I was once assigned to read and tested on but have little recall of actually reading. My list of accomplishments include the lovely Tess of the d’Urbervilles, Moby Dick, Crime and Punishment, War and Peace, The Way of All Flesh, The Quiet American and others. I not only read them and stayed awake; I enjoyed them. Try it. Especially if you are — ahem — up in years and don’t feel compelled to run on the treadmill. Bouncing would make the reading line a hard target. By the way, the motivation works both ways. It not only inspires the reading but now I look forward to the exercise time.

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    • D. A. Wolf says

      December 10, 2014 at 1:22 pm

      Excellent suggestions, Thomas. And quite the list of classics! Inspiring.

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  5. Karenlalaniz says

    January 27, 2015 at 3:44 am

    How is it that so many of your posts resonate with me? I was never a big reader. My sister was. She always had her nose in a book, as my mother would say. I, on the other hand, was outside riding my bike, climbing trees, and pretending to be a detective. I did read over the years but was not an avid reader. Until. I read about someone in a woman’s magazine. One simple line changed my life. She said, ‘My favorite thing to do when I travel is find a bookstore in each town and buy a new book to read.’ And that line stuck with me. I was in my 30’s and it was like I was suddenly given a key to a treasure chest. I could “become” a reader. And I did.

    In fact, I also became a writer – writing and publishing a book about my father and his secret role during WWII (Breaking the Code: a Father’s Secret, a Daughter’s Journey, and the Question That Changed Everything). Quite a change from someone who wasn’t much of a reader, but who chose to become one.

    Anyway – thanks for the great blog. Can’t wait to poke around some more. ~Karen

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