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Senior Sex Sells

July 10, 2013 by D. A. Wolf 4 Comments

Sex over 50? Over 60? Over 70? Think our elders aren’t getting it on?

Beautiful and Confident Older WomanSenior sex may not get much press, but that doesn’t mean the press of the flesh isn’t taking place in the real world, or for that matter, in the still simmering psyches of our older citizens.

The Daily Beast takes on the issue of senior erotica in its article which mentions Jaxine Bubis, a.k.a. Jaxine Daniels, author of what is referred to as erotic fiction for the gray haired set.

And no, the article isn’t played for laughs, despite an apparently irresistible nod to “nursing home nookie.”

Exploring the realm of erotic fiction for the elder enthusiast, there may be more of a market for realistic depictions of steamy sexuality than we realize – depictions that feed our desire for fantasy, regardless of the birth date imprinted on a worn social security card.

Real Women, Real Men, Real Market

In her article, writer Rachel Kramer Bussel notes that these stories create characters with physical changes befitting their years. Citing Joan Price, author of both non-fiction works on senior sex as well as Ageless Erotica, a collection of stories by a variety of writers:

Price wanted stories that, while fictional, offered accurate portrayals of senior sex, “not just slapping wrinkles and an arbitrary age on the same old youth-oriented erotica.”

Shall we remember that there are more than 40 million Americans over the age of 65? Seems like a sweet market demographic to me…

Our Bodies Age, Our Desire… Not So Much

One could argue that our inner voices, our dreams, our sense of self at 68 varies little from the sense of self at 28. Naturally, that’s a matter of the individual involved, and the life circumstances he or she is living.

Yet in that light, in a sort of recognition that we are who we are and still in need of both emotional connection and sexual excitement, Ms. Bussel goes on to explain:

Ageless Erotica details sex in aging bodies with a compassion and tenderness that doesn’t skimp on the eroticism.

And why would it? Do we really believe our capacity for passion dries up, or our desire for it? Don’t our dreams reveal the extent to which we are sexual creatures, even if we’re less than willing to admit to pleasure in both sensuality and sexuality at any age, or to missing it – whether we speak of it or not?

What if we’re actually freer as we grow older – more playful, more creative – despite the inevitable signs of wear-and-tear physically or perhaps even, because of them?

Granny Erotica?

Some think there’s no need for an explicit older erotica genre. In a letter to Ms. Price from one of the Ageless Erotica contributors, note the clarity of this position:

“… I write these stories for everyone to enjoy, regardless of age, in hopes of showing that we seniors are not alien creatures—that despite physical infirmities that may slow us down, in affairs of the heart we can and do remain forever young.”

I can only hope those who pen this prose do so with attention to quality, to humor, and with a literary touch, as that is the issue I have with most erotica – its lack of engaging writing. After all, the brain is the biggest sex organ around. Mine requires impeccable attention to words with a side of wit – whispered in my ear, or splayed on the printed page.

 

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Filed Under: Health, Sex Tagged With: aging, aging gracefully, anti-aging, erotica, érotisme, psychology, real women real life, Sex, sexuality over 50, sexuality over 60

Comments

  1. Walker Thornton says

    July 10, 2013 at 1:09 pm

    The problem is that our society has written off sex for people over a certain age–we need the likes of Joan Price and other writers to help provide sex-positive and age-positive images. Not just for us, but for those cocky 25 year olds who seem to think sex stops when one hits… 40? And, while I know why you used the term Granny Erotica, those labels and comments about nursing home nookie and other derogatory examples are the way society tries, yet again, to put people of a certain age in a box.

    As for quality of writing? There is some lovely erotica available, but it tends to feature unrealistic scenarios regardless of age.

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    • D. A. Wolf says

      July 10, 2013 at 1:25 pm

      To be clear, Granny Erotica is not my term, and strikes me (like you) as derogatory, and also… silly. And I agree with you completely, though have found only select examples of erotica that I find of literary merit. (Eugenides-edited “My Mistress’s Sparrow is Dead’ is wonderful.)

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  2. Joan Price says

    July 10, 2013 at 2:38 pm

    Thank you for this, D.A. I agree with you and Walker that “Granny Erotica” is a silly and derogatory term, but I’m thankful that senior erotica is being discussed instead of ignored. If you’re looking for literary merit, have you read Ageless Erotica? I’d love to know what you think!

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  3. Curtis says

    July 10, 2013 at 9:31 pm

    Interesting. I never thought of this. It seems like it would be an emerging market. Why not have sex as one ages, although I have a good scare the other month where a friend of mine advised me he knew several men with erectile dysfunction in their late 50s. I was concerned perhaps I should be having more fun now while I can. I did some reading, determined it was not as apocalyptic and widespread as my friend suggested. Just in case I have decided to quit smoking altogether, even though a good Cohiba on a summer day is hard to resist (Day 8 of Cohiba abstinence).

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