Venting can be therapeutic, don’t you think? One might say that venting is the same as complaining, though complaining is more problematic – especially irritating when it drags on.
So when should we kvetch, and when should we keep mum?
Last week I had a few “inconveniences” with connectivity. I tried not to dwell, and just managed as needed. May I say that writing from one’s iPhone is an intriguing experience, and a wee bit batty?
Eh voilà. Life is full of little challenges and intriguing experiences.
Meanwhile, I have a few (not so) minor repairs coming up. (Deep sigh…) More aggravation. But isn’t that part of everyday life?
Tell me. Are these complaints? Facts? Is this venting? Looking for commiseration?
Psychology Today makes a distinction between complaining and whining that I find telling.
Complaining involves voicing fair and legitimate dissatisfactions with the goal of attaining a resolution or remedy… When we… do so without the goal of attaining a resolution we are merely venting. And when the dissatisfactions we voice are trivial or inconsequential and not worthy of special attention, we are whining.
And the effects of our complaining on our actions and emotional state? Does venting help us feel better, while whining binds us to a bad mood?
What about the impacts to those around us?
Noting that the way we are perceived is influenced by the subtle differences in each (per the Psychology Today article), I’m reflecting on how I just presented my “inconveniences.”
How do you see me in the very slight positive spin I’ve given my complaints? Do you see me as whiny, and not wanting resolution – or just tired (and hot), not to mention wanting to wean myself from the iPhone – and for good reason?
What about you?
Do you complain, vent, or whine? Does it depend on the topic, the day, the amount of sleep, the company you keep?
I shall continue with my “commentary,” and add the following remarks –
- Although the air conditioning broke down chez moi last week, only half the house is impacted.
- To say that I’m sleep challenged occasionally is an understatement, though I’ve even gotten decent sleep through it. Well, sort of. (See? Trying to keep a cool head, if not cool body temperature.)
- I’m focusing on the half of the house where the a.c. is just fine, thanks.
Hmm. All these non-complaints – and on a Monday! A Monday after Mad Men withdrawal! Have I been inhabited by an alien being?
Nah. But the bigger picture changes my responses to these irritations.
- The sun is shining.
- I’m enjoying the conversation here, and delighted to be contributing from time to time.
- It’s July! (What happened to June?)
- The sun is shining.
Eh oui, I’m repeating myself. (Maybe it’s the heat?)
And my skinny jeans fit! Don’t know how that happened. It wasn’t intentional. But I’ll take it! What woman doesn’t love it when her skinny jeans fit?
Yes, this is a ramble. Care to register a complaint?
Any venting of your own?
Better yet, any happy news? Do you have days when your power of positive thinking works fine, and others when it’s on the blink? If I have to go another day with “annoyances” will I be so chipper? Anyone care to take bets?
Shoe shopping therapy may be required, and not online shoe shopping. In person – with air conditioning.
And yes, I’ll be wearing my skinny jeans.
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