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You are here: Home / Chaussures / Dressing in Confidence: The “Go To” Get-Up

Dressing in Confidence: The “Go To” Get-Up

May 19, 2013 by D. A. Wolf 5 Comments

This weekend I had somewhere to go. A special occasion. As in Get Up. Get Dressed. Go Out. And preferably looking stylish.

Beautiful Woman Trying on ShoesIn fact, I was hoping for the perfect combination of chic, sassy, not too “done” and at my best. But no pressure, right?

Like many women, I have a closet full of All Things Required: flattering skirts in every conceivable color; equally appealing form-fitting tops showing off collar bones and cleavage; jackets for both day and night; and the good jeans, the casual jeans, the Some-Day-Again Skinny Jeans. Naturally, there are multiple versions of the LBD, the Little Black Dress.

Shoes?

My cup runneth over. And yet…

I no longer seem to have a “go to” outfit, with or without my embarrassing riches in the Little Feet department. Now how exactly did that happen? And how is it possible with a closet full of shoes and clothes?

Practice Makes Perfect

Have you lost your ability to dress quickly for a special occasion?

(Apparently, I have, unless it’s a business meeting.)

Do you find you grab the same two or three items, but they’ve lost their luster because you don’t feel fabulous in them anymore?

(I’m raising my hand, again.)

Is dressing to socialize like any other skill that grows rusty if unused, leaving us awash in misplaced fashion mojo?

My Spontaneous (Shoe) Shopping Spree, Less Fun Than Expected

Not one to give up on anything, after pulling out the Usual Suspects and attempting to mix them with scarves, pearls, and a variety of heels, I came to the conclusion that I was more impeded by a recent “inconvenience” than I dare admit… one very compromised toe, the result of, well… juvenile judgment.

Foolish footwear fashionista that I am, I had walked a mile in shoes I had no business trekking around in. (Call in the “Are you kidding?” police.) Consequently, one languishing little sore spot on my baby toe was angry. Red, swollen and angry. My pretty shoes that set off each outfit were impossibly uncomfortable, and I knew I would have to start from scratch – and more specifically – dressing from the feet up.

It’s certainly not the first time; I love picking shoes first and dressing my way up! But in this instance, I was truly without a single pair of heels or slides that I could wear with anything appropriate.

Hello? Discount Shopping Mall?

Eight Pairs and One Hour Later

Ah, Payless. At times you are my friend. (Sadly, not this past weekend.)

Shoe Shopping OverloadRoss? You’re full of surprises! Those gorgeous suede boots! Those amazing platforms! (But no, it wasn’t meant to be as I lingered in pitiful disarray, in your shoe department.)

Marshall’s to the rescue! Oh Happy Day, as a sweet albeit slightly preppy pair of slingbacks slid on, allowed for some movement, and didn’t smash my tender tootsie.

And thus we enter Round Two (or Three or Four?) of trying on, well… everything. Working from the floor (and feet) upward, I settled on a Go To Get-Up of a tailored skirt, little black top and jacket, my favorite bold accessories, and newly purchased designer slingbacks – a steal – with striped ribbon bows. Problem solved, and a nice outing was much enjoyed.

Clothing Companion: Confidence

All clothing conundrums aside, considering my hours wasted trying everything on, I realize that we can chip away at our own confidence in the strangest and most unexpected ways.

Indulge in a casual conversation over coffee in my favorite jeans?

No worries, and no problem.

Engage in a discussion online or share a series of exchanges in writing?

Ditto on that score. I’m comfortable in my communicator’s skin.

Yet dressing for a special occasion? I’m out of practice!

Special Occasion Dressing (When You’re Out of Practice)

Beautiful Woman in Red croppedNo, I’m not worried about dressing my age. I know what I like, and that includes the colors and styles that suit me. Age has little to do with it; self-knowledge on the other hand, is a major factor.

Somehow, I had lost my confidence – and a certain once familiar comfort zone – when it came to stepping beyond my routine. I needed to clothe myself in confidence, owning myself as well as my look, and I’m woefully out of this once pleasurable habit.

I remind myself that When dressing well for an event, it’s best not to overthink, but to put on something you feel great in and just plunge ahead – focus on the socializing, what others have to say, the celebration – not what you’re decked out in.

What Others Think vs. How You Feel

Cue one additional light bulb moment: I was more concerned with how I thought I would look than how I felt in what I was wearing. It’s a subtle distinction, but a real one. I was projecting outside in, rather than experiencing the strength of inside out.

If you feel good in your clothes? You project exactly that – with self-assurance.

My new “Go To” Get-Up? First, wear no Ridiculous Shoes in the days before. And beyond that?

Confidence, Baby. And yes, sometimes you build it from the ground up – starting with a great pair of designer shoes (for a really great price).
 

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Comments

  1. Jennifer says

    May 19, 2013 at 11:36 am

    I’ve been so focused on revamping my daily go-to wardrobe, I hadn’t thought of my dress up one. I’d be in real trouble! Everything IS tired because I need it so infrequently. And I always have to start with the shoes…because my feet always hurt.
    Dressing from the inside out is the best, not easiest way.

    Reply
    • D. A. Wolf says

      May 19, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      I hear you, Jennifer… I’m still nursing my sore feet (unusual for me). If you’re dressing up your wardrobe, send pictures! Tell us what you think you’re going to do by way of revamping. (It’s fun.)

      Reply
  2. Pam@over50feeling40 says

    May 19, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    I have been revamping for a long time, and have learned so much!! Like..Ross is an amazing place for shoes!! What is wonderful about dressing up now, is that so much is acceptable. There are many different fun ways you can go…pants to dresses. You might try what I do…decide five adjectives you want to communicate and live within those five. Don’t go out or buy anything that is not within those five. I have link for it at the top of my blog under Personal Style. I concentrate on the messages and that helps me to build confidence.

    Reply
  3. Shelley says

    May 20, 2013 at 5:35 am

    Mine is by far a casual lifestyle these days. I still have enough ‘business’ clothes that I can show up ‘smart’ but I attend funerals more than I do weddings or christenings. (And, personally, I’m shocked at how casually people dress for funerals these days – on both sides of the pond.) I have a christening (my first ever) coming up and I’m still dithering about what to wear. It’s not for a couple of months, so I need to get looking now, not at the last minute. The annoying thing is that it’s very likely to be a very high cost-per-wear situation; ‘Sunday-best’ doesn’t come up much for us. I’m considering whether I might sew something or lease a dress. Shoes are a bigger challenge for small feet like mine, but there is nothing for it but to throw money at it and maybe go out to dinner more often (to get some use of them).

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  4. Ana says

    May 23, 2013 at 12:11 am

    What is it about shoes for women that they have to hurt like crazy to be stylish and you feel like an old woman in shoes that are comfortable? I have shoes that are one hours shoes – any more than that and it’s painful – and shoes that are what I call my “taxi shoes” only suitable when I’m getting a taxi each way, door to door and not too many steps after that! With every new pair, I am hoping these are “the ones” that will look stylish and be comfortable but I’m still hoping. That’s why I have so many shoes in my closet (at least, that’s my excuse) 🙂

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