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Worried Sick

September 30, 2012 by D. A. Wolf 14 Comments

Have you ever worried yourself sick? To the point where you can’t sleep, you can’t eat, or worse?

I have. And more than once. I’m guessing you have, too, though the circumstances may differ.

Have you learned to stop that process when you feel it beginning?

When fear or worry takes over, can you counterbalance its power with reason – or a dose of wishful thinking?

Why are some of us chronic worriers?

Mind Matters

The New York Times article, “Inside the Mind of Worry,” by David Ropeik, references our propensity for worry, exploring the neuroscience that explains this phenomenon.

Using the example of vaccination, and the exaggerated concerns that persist when it comes to inoculations, Mr. Ropeik writes:

In a 2011 Thomson Reuters/NPR poll, nearly one parent in three with a child under 18 was worried about vaccines…

Based on the evidence, these and most other concerns about vaccines are unfounded…

This seeming disconnect – a “risk-perception gap” is explained as follows:

Humans subconsciously weigh the risks and benefits of any choice or course of action – and if taking a particular action seems to afford little or no benefit, the risk automatically feels bigger.

In other words, we no longer perceive certain diseases to be likely (ironically, due to vaccination); therefore, we see the risk of having the vaccination as greater than the potential benefit.

But this isn’t a simple case of ignorance on our part. It seems that neuroscience is telling us:

… the basic architecture of the brain makes us feel first and think second…

All the more reason that scare tactics in advertising are so successful? That Big Pharma continues to convince us that any little tic is a trauma-at-the-ready, and an unsettling sensation is a script-worthy syndrome?

I will digress momentarily to another article in the Times – “Valium’s Contribution to Our New Normal.” Might we trace back our acceptance of drugging away any uncomfortable feelings to the days of Mad Men’s Don Draper and his Madison Avenue colleagues?

Stress: Definition, Description, Risk Factors

I’ve been thinking a good deal about stress, anxiety, worry – the unholy trinity that seems to consume so many of our lives and render us a little bit, well… crazy.

Some of our agita is within our control, and plenty of it – not so much. But I’m relieved to read that worry may have a “structural” basis, and we aren’t simply inflicting this on ourselves.

But pondering emotional disturbance is one thing. Doing something about it is another.

Theoretically, if worry is a matter of instinct or fearful feelings first, followed  by thinking (and reason), can we use that knowledge to behave differently – and not worry ourselves sick?

The definition and description of stress, from the (Medical) Free Dictionary, excerpted and significantly abbreviated:

An organism’s total response to environmental demands or pressures…

Stress in humans results from… [perceived] straining or exceeding their adaptive capacities and threatening their well-being… human stress responses reflect differences in personality, as well as differences in physical strength or general health…

Risk factors for stress-related illnesses are a mix of personal, interpersonal, and social variables. These factors include lack or loss of control over one’s physical environment, and lack or loss of social support networks… Other risk factors include feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, extreme fear or anger, and cynicism or distrust of others.

Anxiety, Anyone?

Loss of social support networks. That gives me pause. Think of how we feel after the death of a spouse, divorce, the loss of a job, empty nest. Isolation can leave us reeling, deprived of our usual support systems.

Hyper-stressed as a result? You bet.

Frankly, reading about stress, I start to feel anxious! But I also find myself nodding in recognition at each of these elements in particular:

  • threatened well-being
  • loss of control
  • lack or loss of social support
  • helplessness
  • cynicism and distrust

So does it all add up to safety? Or lack of safety?

In briefer form, I offer you (non psychiatric) definitions of anxiety and worry, as follows:

Anxiety:

distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune; synonyms: fear, foreboding, worry, disquiet…

Worry:

 uneasiness or anxiety; a cause of uneasiness or anxiety; trouble.

And our anxiety or misfortunes that may prompt perpetual or recurring worry? How much is psychological makeup, experience of trauma, or real world situations we’d have to be nuts not to be worried about?

Worrying Yourself Sick

We know about the nasty effects of running on adrenaline. But that isn’t the same scenario as worrying yourself sick.

As for distinctions among anxiety, worry, and stress, I’m still at somewhat of a loss. Yet I realize that each is based on fear of a negative outcome, and ironically, each can cause negative outcomes.

Could I learn anything helpful if I mention a few notable examples of worrying myself sick? And then consider my once-upon-a-time stress-busting guideline of asking myself – What’s the worst that can happen?

There were the days before my wedding, as I imagined tripping on my way down the aisle, bursting into tears at the altar, and other (typical) crazy scenarios that result in most brides losing their appetite and a few pounds, not to mention – their marbles.

More recently came the Divorce Diet, with equal servings of raw emotion, no sense of control over events, distrust of everyone as legal proceedings dragged on, no support from family, and sizable doses of (legitimate) financial worry. Score one for digestive dramas that yielded a high speed 30-pound drop into a weakened state and unhealthy weight.

Your examples? Perhaps a boss who can’t stand you (as you wait for the pink slip)? The child whose behavior leaves you frenzied and confused? The interminable wait for the result of medical tests?

Mind over Body; Mind is Body

Anxious? Stressed? Worried sick – literally?

Cue the insomnia, the loss of appetite, the binge eating, the chain smoking, the pill popping, the pounding migraine – or any number of unhealthy behaviors or triggered health impacts.

But your stress-inducers won’t be my stress-inducers. Perhaps you despise speaking in public (I like it). The thought of relocating overseas may be unimaginable (to me, it’s exciting). My “intellectual challenge” may be motivating; your response to the same task may be distress.

Still, whatever the cause (of anxiety, worry, or stress), we all know there are times our emotions can make us sick.

Who hasn’t lived one of those abysmal situations? And why do we continue to separate mind and body, as though mind isn’t body?

Can we really help ourselves be less anxious if we practice tricks like my “worst case scenario” question? What about something as simple as a reminder that worrying won’t change an outcome?

But that stress response factor mentioned above – personality – isn’t in the list for nothing. Thus my “good” adrenaline with the challenges that energize me, might cause you to worry yourself sick.

Anti-Anxiety Attitude  

We also know that attitude can strongly influence health: We remind ourselves to slow our breathing, and we feel anxiety lessen; we calculate probabilities, and see the odds in our favor; we focus on positive outcomes, to offset the creeping negatives.

Some turn to their faith. Others turn to nature. Some take to the running trail or lap pool.

As a lay person – not a psychologist, not a physician – I take solace in the Times article. I can look myself (and my worries) in the face, and stare them down with a bit more confidence.

While it appears that “connections from the emotional systems to the cognitive systems are stronger than connections from the cognitive systems to the emotional systems,” to quote Mr. Ropeik, perhaps with that knowledge, we can better manage our individual worries – even if not the complex environments that perpetuate our greatest stress.

  • Are you a worrier? Do you worry yourself sick?
  • What causes your worrying? Health, family, money, work?
  • How do you better manage stress, anxiety, and worry?
  • Does it help knowing that our brains are wired to worry first and think second?

 

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Comments

  1. Madgew says

    September 30, 2012 at 2:46 pm

    Great article today.

    Reply
  2. Naptimewriting says

    September 30, 2012 at 6:04 pm

    Worrier. Obsessive planner. I somehow process anxiety by making elaborate “if-then” plans.

    The plans never come to fruition because life always introduces another “if” for me to quickly “then.”

    But because I spend all my worry on plans, real life often seems surprisingly easy. The real circumstances I have to manage seem easier than the big stuff I dream up. At 3am. In a cold sweat.

    See how I’m barely wasting that stress at all? 😉

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      September 30, 2012 at 6:15 pm

      I like the way you think, Naptime. (Shades of your previous comment?)

      I actually find that plenty of contingency planning reduces stress (for me) in the face of uncertainty. It is a return to the “perception” of control, but it has a practical side in most instances.

      Reply
  3. deb says

    September 30, 2012 at 6:20 pm

    World class worrier here! I’ve made muself sick worrying more times than I can count. My tendency is to catastrophize (is it’s not a word, it should be!) things – always go to the crazy place first! I try to remember those pithy sayings, you know, like “most of the things we worry about never happen”. What that says to me is that I’m not worrying about the right things, and that makes me worry.

    Between us, we have have 8 kids (all grown, thank god!) and have been through messy divorces and worse, so there was plenty of worry-worthy material. Things are much better now, but I still spend too much time worrying and over-thinking things.

    Seriously, interesting to read that we’re wired to worry first. I ‘m working on moving on to the thinking stage.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      September 30, 2012 at 6:32 pm

      Should we have a support group, Deb? 🙂 A Meetup, at least? (Not worrying about the right things. That’s a good one!)

      Reply
  4. Carpool Goddess says

    September 30, 2012 at 7:01 pm

    I’m from a long line of worriers and my biggest fear (no pun intended) is that I’ll pass this on to one of my kids.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      September 30, 2012 at 7:34 pm

      Lovely of you to pop over from carpool line and comment! I smiled at your remark, Carpool Goddess. I worried about that, too. (Really.) But managed not to pass on very much, best I can tell so far. (Which leads me to think there’s a lot of “nature” over nurture in the equation as well.)

      Reply
  5. Laura says

    September 30, 2012 at 10:20 pm

    I am a list maker. When I am firing on all pistons, I remember to look at the list and complete tasks and most importantly, check them off. However, when my stress level is high, I somehow think that I really don’t need to look at that list because I’ve got it all in my head. Then the sun continues its rotation, my day goes on and I accomplish nothing on my list.

    I feel the stress in my gut first. I have now figured out how to listen to my gut and shut down the spiral as soon as I can. I often visualize swimming underwater in a clear blue Caribbean sea.( I am usually ten pounds lighter and have a healthy glow in that visualization.) It calms me and stops the IBS that I managed to train myself to have thanks to all of the anxiety, fear and worrying,

    I did leave a ten year career as a nursing administrator to go back to patient care. I am back in the flow. My body and my kids are so happy that I am not logging 60 hour weeks anymore. I think going back to a three day work week (three twelve hour shifts) was the best thing I could have done for myself. 48 hour work weeks feel like a breeze! Not to mention the benefits of being up on my feet and not chained to a desk looking at Excel spreadsheets.

    Like Carpool Goddess, I worried about my list making getting passed on to my daughter. She is a list maker, usually for gift ideas, but nonetheless, the quirk has been active in her as soon as she could spell.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      September 30, 2012 at 10:57 pm

      Lists! Yes! (Very helpful.)

      60 hours, Laura, in that sort of job? And juggling family? Wow. I can see where 48 / week would seem like a relative vacation!

      Reply
  6. lunaboogie says

    October 1, 2012 at 8:51 am

    I was raised by a chronic worrier. Then I married one. Because I veer in that direction myself, I often feel like I have a triple dose of it, at any given time. And the 3 parties are all worried about different issues! It has been a life long challenge to set boundaries with these people I am close to and love and are in that place of worry distress . To not take it on, not problem solve and just let it be.

    My biggest worry? How to get everything done that needs to be done. From the work on my desk for tomorrow to all the violin music I want to learn in my lifetime. For myself, insomnia is probably the biggest result. To be awake in the dark for hours and hours, wondering how I will get it all done and then how will I get it all done without any sleep?

    Some remedies: reminding myself how much I have accomplished, reciting in my head all the things I am grateful for. Having the new manta of “good enough” instead of “this job has to be perfect”. Being proud of my personal accomplishments of the day also help – the fast bike ride, eating thoughtfully, and mustering patience in a trying situation.

    Reply
  7. Chicatanyage says

    October 1, 2012 at 10:54 am

    I seem to come from a family of worriers, grandmother, mother, me and possibly now my daughter. Although each generation is a little better than the last. Is this tendency in the genes I wonder. At least I have not taken to the Valium. (yet). Must read article in NYT to find out more.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      October 1, 2012 at 11:02 am

      Nice to hear from you, Chihcatanyage. I realize it’s mostly women who stop by here and comment, but does it seem that women worry more than men? Or do we worry differently?

      Reply
  8. Rudri Bhatt Patel @ Being Rudri says

    October 1, 2012 at 7:42 pm

    I worry. About everything. Everyday. Intellectually, though, I know that almost 75% of what we worry about never comes true. However, when it is the default to worry, it becomes hard to break that cycle. But I am working on trying to break it everyday…

    Reply
  9. Wolf Pascoe says

    October 2, 2012 at 4:39 pm

    I try very hard to worry about only one thing at a time. I think the point of a list is to get all the things you’re worrying about out of your head and on the list.

    Reply

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