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Therapy

February 19, 2011 by D. A. Wolf 8 Comments

It has been months since I’ve been in a store. For girl stuff. To buy a lipstick. To try on shoes.

Therapeutic shopping, if you will.

  • I need to run my fingers through a clothing rack.
  • I need to slip my tootsies into Calvin Klein, Miu Miu, and oooo. . .  Jimmy Choo.
  • I need to breathe the perfume counter, in all its clatter of conflicting fragrance.
  • And I don’t need to spend a dime doing it.

Do you know what you need when you’re down?

I’m down, but I’m not out. And that’s part of the problem.

I need to get out of the house. Not at the bank, the supermarket, or my kid’s school. I need some reminder of a “me” still in here, in this body, in this mind – a non-crazed, non-maternal, non-strangled-in-red-tape variation of a living, feeling woman.

And I need a man.

Flirtation Fling?

Now, now. “Needing” a man doesn’t necessarily mean I have to “hook up” in order to get the jolt of juice that comes with feeling alive – though never say never, and we all know that a little romance can go a long way. .  .

I will say that on one of my crammed and jammed yo-yo visits to assorted offices in the past week, I managed to stop at a Starbucks – not my usual place – just to catch my breath. I was suffering a serious caffeine deficit, and overdue to purchase a bag of ground coffee anyway.

Wishing I were in a French café (with those irresistible flirtation-friendly Frenchmen nearby), I was surprised to be greeted by a gregarious (and cute) Barista. It was a momentary and engaging exchange, and it perked me up as much as the Espresso Roast I decided to go with. Not to mention the free cup he brewed for me as we chatted across the counter of croissants and cupcakes.

Shoes, Fashion, Shoes

Additional therapy, to remind me that I’m more than a messed up digital footprint – but a lovely pair of feet – in the flesh?

Not quite as good as the real thing, but last evening just before sleeping, I browsed Net-a-porter.com, where I checked out all the finest footwear, without ever having to leave the comfort of my bed.

Shoe shopping – without parking hassles or the temptation to spend what I don’t have (on shoes I don’t need). Utterly delicious.

And relaxing repose after a long week, headed into an equally jammed weekend of paperwork and project documents. No nasty nightmares after views of Viviers and the luxuriant lens of Louboutin!

What else enhances mood?

Now the ideal therapy might have involved a little bit more. Something enlisting all the senses to. . . sing. But everyone needs moments to look forward to, right? Experiences? Accomplishments? Encounters?

Other modes of therapy are many – a short walk on a sunny afternoon, thirty minutes with a fabulous book, a bit of time to paint my toenails Cherry Crush – always a mood enhancer. My son promised to do some yard work, and gazing at our once-upon-a-time small garden in a more cleaned up state would certainly put a smile on my face.

None of this may sound especially exciting, but to me – it all seems pretty good if for no other reason than it is a break in the rugged routine of late, and a reminder that as Spring approaches, the load may possibly lighten.

Despite troublesome times, the woman in me is – apparently – still present.

And she stirs.


© D A Wolf

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  1. Carol says

    February 19, 2011 at 1:02 pm

    Therapy comes in many forms and should be included in every life daily. My words of wisdom (?) for this day!

    Reply
  2. Cathy says

    February 19, 2011 at 1:46 pm

    My mood enhancer – alone time with my TV. Alas, I do not have this option anymore. Oh well. Need to figure something else out.

    Reply
  3. notasoccermom says

    February 19, 2011 at 10:23 pm

    Oh I can relate. And have been feeling many of the same feelings as of late. Spring fever is definitely in my mind.
    Add to that a week on the couch coughing up a cold… making me that much OVER winter. And now, a funeral.
    But- in the midst of all of that- I have, and will find time for me. A hot shower, a brisk walk, and time crying with my girls over the loss of their grandmother. My once upon a time mother-in-law may she rest in peace. Crazy as it sounds, crying can be therapeutic too.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      February 19, 2011 at 10:30 pm

      I’m so sorry about your mother-in-law. Yes, crying is therapeutic. Sometimes it’s just right.

      Reply
  4. Rudri Bhatt Patel @ Being Rudri says

    February 20, 2011 at 6:38 pm

    A nice run or reading a good book is great escape for me.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      February 20, 2011 at 6:54 pm

      What about a great book on running. . . in hot shoes? 😉

      Reply
  5. LisaF says

    February 21, 2011 at 1:02 am

    Do you know why women (most of us) love shoe shopping? Because we really don’t have to worry about size…or if they makes us look too fat! Shoes are always the right size and make us look fabulous…which is therapy extraordinaire any day of the week!

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    • BigLittleWolf says

      February 21, 2011 at 6:59 pm

      Exactly, Lisa!

      Jimmy Choo

      Reply

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