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You are here: Home / Culture / Jane on Jane, and the Value of YES

Jane on Jane, and the Value of YES

May 23, 2012 by D. A. Wolf 11 Comments

Thank you, Women’s Voices for Change, for the shout-out to Emmy Award-winning actor Jane Lynch and her 2012 commencement speech at Smith College.

It’s a funny and inspiring twenty minutes (see below), filled with humor and smarts from this multi-talented dynamo. I strongly recommend that you watch and listen, not only enjoying Ms. Lynch’s wit, but the plentiful lessons from her own life – and how things changed as she began to embrace all of it.

Her words are important for women now more than ever, in this political climate. But her message is important when any of us is struggling with situations we neither anticipate nor know how to manage.

We are reminded that life is a roller coaster, and the ups and downs will form us, motivate us, strengthen us, and embolden us.

Here is a sampling of snippets from one of the best commencement speeches I’ve ever heard. Ms. Lynch says:

I would’ve spent more time focusing on what was right in front of me instead of recoiling from what is, because it didn’t look or feel exactly as I imagined it.

How many of us can relate to that statement?

How much time do we fight ourselves and blame ourselves when our lives don’t resemble what we had in mind? Our bodies, our careers, our marriages, our children? How much time do we waste in the process?

Ms. Lynch goes on to recount her life story (her comedic timing is impeccable), and she offers us nuggets of wisdom that are encouraging and reassuring.

She touches on our attitudes in embracing ourselves, the balance of accepting what is and working for change, the importance of poking holes in assumptions and continuing to question.

She speaks to work, relationships, and family.

She addresses the inevitable passage of time – the surprise of aging – and the need to accept whatever life throws our way and greet it fully. She does so with great thoughtfulness:

You will experience loss, heartache… rejection… you’ll age…

The trick isn’t to avoid these times or pretend they’re not happening. Because you can’t. What you’ll need to do is step up to them courageously, and embrace them… They will not only strengthen you but soften you, and you will open your heart to compassion.

Naturally, compassion isn’t the only result of weathering tough times. Ms. Lynch talks about fear and pushing beyond it, tossing out plans (planning is for “wusses”) and taking risks.

She speaks to the value of “yes, and” rather than “yes, but” or simply – no. It’s about getting out of our own way, greeting life full on, and while saying no is important, saying no out of fear isn’t the way to go.

It’s a marvelous speech. Share it if you like – with all the women and men who may need to hear these words today – or any day – to focus on the essentials.

 




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  1. Pauline says

    May 23, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    Fabulous. I always loved her, now I love her more.

    Reply
    • BigLittleWolf says

      May 23, 2012 at 12:12 pm

      I couldn’t agree more, Pauline!

      Reply
  2. Belinda says

    May 23, 2012 at 6:44 pm

    What a great commencement speech. Love me some JL. She had me with her opening remarks when she mentioned Piper K whose book, Orange is the New Black, I actually read and enjoyed.

    Reply
  3. William Belle says

    May 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Good speech. Funny woman. I’m reading… and smiling. wb 🙂

    FYI: the text of the speech

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  4. Shelley says

    May 24, 2012 at 8:17 am

    I’m so out of the cultural mainstream it’s ridiculous. Never mind. In spite of never having heard of her before, I did enjoy her speech. Loads of wisdom there. Thanks for sharing.

    Reply
  5. Madgew says

    May 25, 2012 at 7:52 am

    Why do we value an actress so much as to have her give a commencement speech? I would rather see the words of wisdom coming from a woman in power who worked her way up to the top. Just my two cents.

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    • BigLittleWolf says

      May 25, 2012 at 9:03 am

      That’s a very interesting question…

      I would have to guess that in the case of JL, she was selected because she has a personal connection to Smith and also, she’s a well known figure in popular culture. She’s also funny as hell and has plenty of human wisdom. From listening to her speech, she had many life lessons to share.

      I don’t have a problem with anyone of significant accomplishment and wisdom speaking at a commencement. I daresay her words will be remembered more than those of many other individuals with more traditional claims to fame. (I’m now trying to recall who spoke at my Wellesley commencement. No memory of it whatsoever.)

      But your point is well taken.

      Reply
  6. Wolf Pascoe says

    May 31, 2012 at 3:02 pm

    This was great. Loved the “Yes, and . . . ” improv approach to life.

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  7. Contemporary Troubadour says

    May 31, 2012 at 5:06 pm

    I’m so glad you posted this — it’s a timely message for anyone at any age. “Yes, and” is something I was never good at saying to myself in my 20s, especially right after college. I’m just now beginning to do that and it’s hard! But practice, practice …

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