“There’s been a shocking shortage of togas in my life,” she said on the phone. I considered her remark for a moment, running through the past years of coffee dates, dinner dates, dessert dates, assorted cocktails. Cocktail napkins for that matter. Quite right. Not a toga among them. Hell, not even a Third Date toga. […]
Archives for 2009
Third Date Sex (and the LDR)
First, check your teeth for a bit of broccoli. Use the rear-view mirror if you must, as he runs into the Seven Eleven for you-know-what. It’s the third date, and you’re GO for lift-off. Sex! Kissing is key, but if you’re about to embark on Third Date Sex (TDS) you’ve already sampled the smooching in […]
Loneliness. NOT a Dirty Word.
Loneliness is painful, but the shame we feel makes it worse.
Not today
All we really care about is love, you know? So love each other. Love your kids, your spouses, your friends, your parents, your pets. We do it naturally, as children. We lose the capacity, or the willingness, as adults. No more words. Not today. Our dog died, early this morning. We loved her. From August: […]
Is a Pact With the Devil the Price of Success?
Does success always involve a pact with the devil? Go on. Think back. All those little deals and compromises justified in order to move up the corporate ladder, to get the bigger house, the faster car, the hot guy, the beautiful woman… What wouldn’t we do to get what we want? What if it’s to […]
Narcissistic Relationship? Use It or Lose It.
When you realize you’re in a narcissistic relationship – personal or professional – then what?
Mr. Potato Head. Richard Gere. Faux Fur.
Mr. Potato Head was flashing through my dreams the other night. No… not those kind of dreams, and not that kind of flashing either. Even if this little hunka-hunka-studly-spud has a certain staying power, expressive eyebrows, and movable parts, he’s just not my type. I like a man with, um, backbone. Oh. And a pulse. […]
I Call Myself "Single"
I refer to myself as single. I think of myself as single. The “D” word? My mind just doesn’t go there. Marriage seems like a past life, a distant and foggy dream. Divorce? It was a long and wretched process. Impossible to forget, but I don’t dwell on it. Does the distinction matter? “Single” is […]
The AGE Issue: Older Men, Younger Women
Older men, younger women, and enough already…
I wish I may, I wish I might, understand my teen tonight!
What if we let our kids hand us a list of their parenting wishes? A sort of top ten tips for parenting, from their perspective? If only there were guides for the tween and teen years that were as straightforward as getting through those first sleepless six months, or the terrible twos. (Though personally, I […]