If we’re single, we’re thinking about sex. If we’re married, we’re thinking about sex. If we’re anywhere in between (over 12 and not dead), we’re thinking about sex. Are we getting any? There are clear indications that things are trending West… That is, after all, where the earth moves…
As for the rest of us, we are entertaining ourselves in a variety of ways. Let’s see. There’s searching for the blue M&Ms. There’s Majong, the New York Times crossword, vibrating mascara. Blogging, of course…
Sextacular
And by the way – how often do men think about sex? Though some estimates say every 52 seconds (I’m not surprised), there is a staggering lack of study relative to women! (A sign of our discretion?)
And women do think about sex often; my experience (and that of friends) runs about once per hour, no doubt less frequently than men because we’re busy with our pink foam curlers, laundry and such. But that still makes for a lot of cerebral sexual activity in both genders.
Ongoing conversations
So. Here we are, setting aside the Majong tiles, the newspaper, the keyboard. (I never leave home without my mascara), and we’re musing on SEX constantly, including:
- Third Date Sex
- Stumble-bumble Boot Sex
- Depression-resistant Sex
- Wild Kingdom Sex
- Domestic Dominatrix Sex
- Flirty Dirty Sexting
- Hot Dad Sex
- Kinky Stranger Sex
- Sexual Fantasy
- G-spot and T-spot Sex
and so much more! 
Key electoral states?
Thus far, the California coast seems to be getting it on with regularity. (Hearty applause is heard from Sonoma to San Diego.) Case in point – ongoing discussion at DadsHouse down to county and city-specific FWB (Friends with Benefits) sex.
As for the Right Coast, we have our party pleasures, but apparently, fewer gadgets (of the communication sort), and less vigor or frequency than our opposite-side-of-the-country compatriots. Perhaps our inbred traditionalism is showing, and we’re simply more mum on the topic? (Note: colder temperatures are coming, requiring bundling.)
Side by side comparison?
So. Is California really more sexually engaged than the Eastern half of these fair United States?
- What about the regions in between?
- Are they choosing crop circles over blogging circles?
- Or happily coupling without a need to discuss it?
- We know Oklahoma is OK with sex…
- And the Pacific Northwest? Canada? Hoarding wood for winter?
I suppose we could chalk California’s enthusiasm up to influences of Hollywood, fine wine making to encourage the mating mood, High Tech innovation, and Gidget, who was, incidentally, my cultural touchstone and role model before the ladies of Sex and the City.
And that could explain why most of my Third Date Sex is actually on the Fifth Date, or in France.
Anyone have hard data on the States of our Unions?
You are so funny. I still maintain men and women think about and act on sex in totally different and gender specific ways, as a generality, with plenty of exceptions on both sides. For example, I’ve NEVER known a woman who stuck with promiscuity for long. They may have had a reaction to a past relationship, the end of a long marriage and “dry” spell, and thought I’m going to go out and just “f*&^%$k” every man I can find just like the men do. But, they ALWAYS tire of it and it only happens, if at all, ONCE for women. Men never tire of it and, if we could get away with it, would always have multiple partners. The reason for marriage is to tame us and teach us manners. It works as married men live longer! I could go on and on about this, but the basic point is men and women are different, despite what you may have been taught in college or grad school!
Oddly enough, at middle age, for the first time in my life I don’t think about sex as much as I used to. I still look way too much, but I hope that never goes away. I remember a great story Dennis Prager told which perfectly exemplifies the male/female differences and their misunderstanding of each other. A female doctor was taking care of a very old man, who was dying. She was there as he passed away and was irritated that she notice the last thing he did was look down her blouse. I agree with Dennis that what the heck was wrong with that, and that showed he still had some “life” in him, some “passion” and what better way to go than appreciated a woman’s beauty/attractiveness. May I die in such circumstances, looking down my wife’s blouse or grabbing her!
Well, down here in the Heart of Dixie we are busy coupling, just not talking about it.
We don’t mind talking about sex, just not the sex we are having.
This has all made me think of something my daddy once said. “People who do a lot of talking about sex aren’t getting any sex.”
Makes me wonder if all that noise coming out of California is anything but noise. A lot of talk but very little action!
T-spot sex. I like it!
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I’ve always heard that the cooler temperatures made for lots more sex so I would assume it’d be the northerners that do it more.
Down here in Texas, we like it HOT and STEAMY!
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I don’t know if Cali gets more or less sex. I’ve lived in New England, and there was plenty going on there. Are we more willing to write about it? Maybe. Things are looser here, in terms of what’s “proper” to talk about.
I blog about sex because it’s a topic for single parents. If you don’t have a partner, who do you sleep with? I typically don’t blog about relationships when I’m in them, so anything I write about sex happened sometime back. But I do write about it. It’s an important topic. Do I write about it a lot? I don’t think so. I write far more about family.
Are men and women different? Yes! yes! yes!!! I’ve heard a lot of women say they’d go a year without sex while they wait for the right partner. Most guys I know aren’t like that. We’ll get our sexual release, regardless. I’ve read “Women who run with the wolves”, and “Eat pray love”, and I still don’t understand women. Women are different than me.
Way back in the day, when I was shelving books in the university library so I could have some party and clothing money, I read a Johnson & Johnson study that seemed to indicate that those with less stressful lives had a greater sex drive. Hmmm. Okay, that would eliminate the entire East Coast from the equation and most of California. Have you ever lived there? Geez! Just try getting over the Bay Bridge in ten minutes during rush hour or leaving the city on a Saturday morning. No. Definitely not stress free.
So if the Johnson’s were accurate in their findings, people like me, living in the stress-free to the point of someone-shoot-me-I-can’t-stand-waiting-for-the-next-hoedown Pacific Northwest, ought to have a hecka lot o’ sex drive. That’s probably the case. The quandary is, there’s no one within miles to make an adequate coupling with even if you’re not picky and don’t care what the caballero looks like. The result is an abundance of profitable “adult stores”.
Washington and Oregon are becoming the new Napa Valley. We know how to make great wine. Even so, if an adequate or even viable counterpart is not available, it just doesn’t matter how high the sex drive is…the actually activity will have to either be modified or eliminated. Thus, my vote is that there is more sex going on in places where there are more people to have sex with. Not hard data, just an intuitive hunch.
And, I totally side with Cathy. Though I’m a Yankee by definition, my daddy was from the Deep South and I always heard comments like that. It’s another version of the “I don’t kiss and tell” thing. 🙂
I mean really, how many people want to admit they’ve been celibate against their will for nigh on a coon’s age. Not many in those more urbanized centers I’m a figgerin’ cuz it just ain’t sofisticated after all.