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The Difference Between How You Are and How You Say You Are

Your head throbs at the temples and aches at the base of your skull, but you listen to unsolicited advice without wincing, and you wonder when the analgesic will take effect. As the saying goes, never let 'em see you sweat, and after all, the haze will lift. It's only a matter of time before the migraine passes. … [Read More...]

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The Advantages of Working Different Jobs

Some of us specialize early in life. Others work different jobs, as a matter of necessity or exploration or both, and we come to appreciate the advantages of diverse experience. If we zero in on a field early, if we pursue it with laser focus for years, if we don't allow for professional detours or distractions -- are we inadvertently … [Read More...]

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A Smiling, Spontaneous Afternoon

Spontaneity. It's too easily set aside. Now and then, you need to let it rule the roost. So you go with the flow, you say yes to what feels good, and you remind yourself that the world won't mind if you take an afternoon off. Letting the hours unfurl as they will, and enjoying when serendipity … [Read More...]

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The Softer Side of Social (Media)

Given how often I have raised the issue of TMI on the Internet, I am revisiting a Times article that speaks to the softer side of social media. And no, I don't mean little love notes left on Facebook or texts to our honeys. Nor do I mean the eloquent letters to our spouses, children, or … [Read More...]

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Curating Our Content (or Shutting Up)

Curating content. Do you know what it means? Do you do it? Do you curate your own and publish it, along with culling relevant verbal and visual gems produced by others? In an article I read a few weeks back, the topic was curating content -- our own content for personal purposes, as in the stream of … [Read More...]

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How to Get What You Want

Do you know how to get what you want? Do you find that getting what you want is a matter of your approach or your attitude, or does that depend? What about the support of others -- your team, your friends, your family? In a business context, all of the above are important. … [Read More...]

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On Moving Forward

When my younger son was pulling out all the stops to get good grades, complete research papers, and build portfolios to submit with college applications, I was understandably concerned about the amount of pressure he was under. Yet it was part of the process of moving forward, getting ahead, working toward goals. Isn't that … [Read More...]

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What Will You Be… When You Grow Up?

I remember typewriters -- first a Smith Corona, once an Olivetti, and eventually, a Selectric that I was allowed to use on occasion. It belonged to my mother, and I marveled at the miracle machine's whirring and high-pitched clickety clack, to say nothing of its efficiency. Eventually … [Read More...]

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Relationships Are Transactional

In business, transactional relationships make sense. No one will dispute "I give you this, you give me that." But what about transactional relationships in our personal lives? If someone remarks on the transactional nature of your marriage or your love affair, is that a problem? At first blush … [Read More...]

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How Many Times Have You Been in Love?

When I ran across a brief survey as to how many times people had been in love, I was surprised at the results. Three or four times was the most common finding, with two times taking second place. So how many times should we fall in love? How many times might we consider "normal?" This little survey … [Read More...]

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Random Thoughts on Work and Motherhood

The irony of the headline was its location, bordering an oversize double-page spread of a young woman clutching a brightly colored designer bag, standing against a Photoshopped ocean and a lapis sky. Oh so chic. The headline, “Don’t call it vacation”, required nothing more than … [Read More...]

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Mad Men Season 7 Episode 12: Lost Horizon

For a time, Don Draper, Roger Sterling, Joan Harris and Peggy Olson had it all at SC&P. Their Shangri-La, though they may not have fully realized it. The agency was their place of peace and prosperity, and even a love for each other that resembles that of family. Then, they sold out. Or, depending on how you wish to interpret it … [Read More...]

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An Expectation of Attention

Long days, long evenings, jammed weekends. So much time devoted to obligations, and so little attention focused on the relationships that count. Does that sound familiar? A few months back, beyond sharing conversation over dinner -- admittedly distracted while doing so -- I wasn't able to spend … [Read More...]

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How to Find Yourself After 50

It isn't that I went looking for myself at 50. Not exactly. But how to find yourself at any age, when you feel you've been lost, is an unsettling prospect. Finding yourself at 50 or after... terrifying. Maybe you've spent years in a marriage in which you tamped down the desire to start a business, to get a graduate degree, to have … [Read More...]

Talking and Contemplating

Does Talking About Our Problems Really Help?

Does talking about our problems really help? Do we talk more freely about our issues than we did a decade ago? Are we more willing to open up about the spouse or kids, a health concern, or troubles at work? Are we more likely to get into the guts of society's demands as to … [Read More...]

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Mad Men Season 7 Episode 11: Time and Life

Could there be a more succinct, summarizing title for Mad Men's Episode 11 than "Time and Life?" Talk about spotlighting our awareness of how little time remains, how quickly things can change, and what yields our greatest sense of accomplishment in life. Just as we were focused on Don Draper's potential demise (last week), all eyes … [Read More...]

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Picking Your (Relationship) Battles

The proverbial relationship wisdom when it comes to disagreements? Pick your battles to better keep the peace, and fight the good fight when it counts. Easier said than done? Could be. As a proponent of the pick your battles school of thought -- with a lover, a spouse … [Read More...]

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The Benefits of Doing One Thing at a Time

Yesterday was a productive day. For a change, I proceeded through my list of tasks by doing one thing at a time, curious to see the benefits. I stuck to one sticky, if you will... instead of my usual eight or nine. Now, I've had many productive days lately, but … [Read More...]

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Headline Headache: Sex, Sizzle, Search and Share

I couldn't stop chuckling as I read The Times public editor's commentary on the erosion of the fine art of headline writing. So what's your pleasure -- title for shock, for amusement, for clarity, for searchability, and more? In Hey Google! Check Out This Column on Headlines, I was reminded … [Read More...]