Becoming. It's the word my mother frequently substituted for "attractive" or "pretty." "That's not becoming behavior," she would say. Or: "That dress is not becoming on you." Criticism came easily to my mother. The words we hear early in life, especially when they are repeated, make their way into our consciousness, our language, our inner dialog. I heard "not becoming" far more often that its positive alternative. As I consider that realization, sifting through the deeper meaning behind those words spoken by an exceptionally articulate woman, it's as if "not becoming" was a carefully positioned obstacle, an interdiction … [Read More...]
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