Daily Dish

Mature Woman Smiling Warmly

Face Time

There are times you just want to sit across from the person you need to talk to, to listen to, to influence. The person from whom you hope to glean knowledge, perspective, answers... possibly a job. You don't want to look bored. You don't want to look too eager. Yet our expressions, our gestures, our "je ne sais quoi" are often best communicated non-verbally. And that means face time. Maybe it's face time on your iPhone … [Read More...]

Relationships

Call me Trouble

You Feel It. He Doesn’t.

Dating. Relationship. Love… What if you’re not on the same page at the same time?

Woman at laptop in bed with worried expression

Why You Shouldn’t Talk to Strangers. Wait… DO… Maybe.

Online dating. Real life. Who is friend vs. foe?

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Health & Well-Being

Marilyn Monroe and Jane Russell 1953

Anything But “Fat”…

Must we label everything and everyone? The “plus-size” issue.

Woman on violin

Letting it Flow

When sad music leaves us weeping, pleasurably, we just may let the tears flow.

Breaking the Bank to Pay for Pills

Prescription for Your Next Rx

Be a knowledgeable health care consumer. Ask questions!

Senior Woman at Gym

Living to 100?

Women may be living longer. But are women living better?

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Tired and Worried Woman

Nuit Blanche

Considering the French term for an all-nighter, a "white night," I suspect it has to do with the way we feel in the morning - a bit blank, as though some of our brain cells have been erased, zapped, or covered over with white-out. J'ai passé une nuit blanche...  I stayed up through the night, sleepless, working on this and that. Of course, the white night more likely refers to lights on, without the relief … [Read More...]

Mad Men Peggy Season 7 Ep 1

Mad Men Season 7… Of Time Zones and Beginnings

In Mad Men's Final Season opener, "Time Zones," we're greeted by formerly failed ad man, Freddy, pitching poetic prose. It's a gem of an idea - both Freddy's and Mathew Weiner's - as Don Draper is the wizard behind the curtain creating smart slogans and Peggy's piqued interest. The pair may be discussing a Swiss watch, but as they say, it's "time for a conversation," as the premiere situates us in January 1969, and … [Read More...]

Skeptical expression

Are You Cynical?

The narrow street is barely recognizable except for two low-rise apartment buildings and a clapboard cottage. Maybe two. The sprawling campus of brick has transformed the landscape, but this is only a single example of the gentrification that continues in my neighborhood. These particular structures, quite pretty in fact, are part of an expanded private school that sits adjacent to the public school my sons attended … [Read More...]

Unhappy with Hair

Flowering

"Just a trim. A little layering through here," I say. "You can see where it's heavy in the back and on the sides." "Sure," she says, snapping the smock together around the back. Over the next 30 minutes, through protests and intervention by other stylists, all of us attempting to guide her politely, I receive the following: Worst. Haircut. Ever. Well, worst haircut that I ever paid for. My consolation … [Read More...]

Entitled Woman

I Want What I Want… and I Want it Now!

Me, me, me. And ME, ME, ME. Now tell me more... about me... would you? Signs of entitlement? Maybe yes, maybe no. Abject cluelessness? That, too. Visions of operatic mi-mi-mi struck recently while browsing my usual social media feeds. The abundance of self-promotional updates, one after another, hit a screeching and sour chord... with me. Now, now. We're just trying to compete, to make a buck … [Read More...]

Mature Woman Contemplating

Marriage Made Me, Marriage Undid Me

I've been mulling over living arrangements, more often of late, as the circumstances of my life are evolving. Cohabiting part-time is one thing; that has been my situation for more than two years, and it's gone well. The arrival of a good man on the scene dovetailed with empty nest. However, living with someone full-time is a dramatically different scenario. It's something I'm considering … [Read More...]

Three generations in the kitchen

Moms Rising

Women, women, women. Or more specifically, mothers. I took a long, slow breath as I saw this headline in The New York Times: "Number of Mothers in U.S. Who Stay at Home Rises." Or should I say a deep cleansing breath, before yet another painful push? Regarding the recent Pew Research report on stay at home moms, I can't say that I'm surprised … [Read More...]

Woman Contemplating and Leaning Against Window

On Your Own

There are those who can't stand to be alone with themselves for long, feeling as though they are less worthy if they aren't out with friends or more importantly - to them - in some sort of relationship. Then there are people like me. We may enjoy our relationships, wanting one even, but identity is not forged as a function of the "other." Nor are we dependent on external perceptions … [Read More...]

Woman Laughing

No Crying? No Laughing? No Way!

I haven't had a good cry in a long time. A very long time. On the other hand, I laugh frequently. And we're talking everything from polite tittering to uncontrollable belly laughter, which brings me to tears. I'm a fan of the LOL, the ROTFL, and the MDR (the French equivalent) - though the real thing, rather than simulated signs or abbreviated messaging to indicate degrees of amusement … [Read More...]

Beautiful Msture Woman closeup

Cracker Jack Helpers

The caramel corn, the peanuts, the prize. Cracker Jack was always a treat, and the tiny toy inside was essential to the pleasure. Like most of us, I enjoy surprises - happy ones, that is, even the small ones. I find myself thinking of Cracker Jack as I'm standing in my kitchen, grinning over a silly (but useful) discovery. Despite a decade of cooking on my range, and scouting for this and that on my counter tops, I have only just come to realize … [Read More...]

Surprised Middle Aged Man

Souplesse

The other woman in this little adventure is twenty-something, with a quizzical look and a smile on her face. At my side is my guy, equally surprised. "You want to do what exactly?" she asks. "A split," I say, as the others at the dining table glance at each other, wondering what I might be up to. Our conversation has meandered into interesting terrain to do with exercise, dancing, stretching - at any age. … [Read More...]

13 year old boy

Talking to Kids About Sex

We went round and round, as we often do, drawing from our own experiences of what we did right - and not so right - as parents. We were talking about kids, their sexual education, what they see online, what is or isn't "pornography." He compared interpretations based on his upbringing with one foot in Europe and the other in the States; I did likewise, though my French experience … [Read More...]

Businesswoman Making a Decision

Crisis of Conscience

When a manager told me to lie to a prospective customer - oh, it must have been 20 years ago now - I refused. It isn't that I was supremely secure in my position or that I didn't understand it would mean money in her pocket. It wasn't even the fact that lying about what you can deliver, when you know you can't, is bad business. It was, to me, a matter of right and wrong. A matter of … [Read More...]

Michael Jackson Dancing Silhouette

From Justin Bieber to Philip Seymour Hoffman: The Psychological Price of Fame

By Avidan Milevsky, PhD We give lip service to the price of fame, but many of us don’t think about what it really means until tragedy is splashed across our media. The recent death of Philip Seymour Hoffman is yet another chapter in the continuous narrative of celebrities who self-destruct. From his many movies, we can attest to the award-winning actor’s talent and intuition … [Read More...]

The nose knows... Scent evokes memory and feeling.

Don’t Leave Home Without Them!

The quick quiz, the zippy list, the think-fast determination of what's important to you - as revealed through your responses. We all love those, don't we? They're fun, and they can indeed be revelatory. For instance - Who do you want to be stuck with in an elevator for hours? What three objects … [Read More...]

Parisian cat on a Parisian balcony

On Counting Cats… And Years

We all know the reputation of cat ladies - warranted or otherwise. We also know the assumptions we make as soon as a person's age is revealed. This is especially true if we have no other information to go on - no image, no voice, no exchange of communication. Naturally, age is even more prejudicial if we haven't met in person, regardless of context. And I specifically note … [Read More...]

Happy Mature Couple

Does Familiarity Breed Contempt?

Familiarity breeds contempt, or at the very least, boredom. So goes the conventional wisdom, though personally, I don't agree. As with everything, context is key, and expressions like this may do little but excuse our bad behavior. Contemptuous of the overbearing in-law who lives with you? I'll buy that. But if you're contemptuous of the loving partner who brings your coffee … [Read More...]

Fresh Butter

I Can’t Believe… It’s Butter!

We were reading labels together: the back of the Country Crock, the back of the light sour cream, the fine print on what we thought was virgin olive oil. Somewhere in the fridge there was "real" butter for our cooking, wrapped in waxy paper with its neat red lettering. We had used it in a recipe. My culinary cohort in crime had insisted. Moreover, he has slipped sticks of real butter … [Read More...]

Woman Listening

An Expectation of Privacy

Do you know who is listening when you speak? Do you know who is reading when you text or email? No, I'm not addressing issues of government agencies, but the everyday infractions to do with an expectation of privacy. I am often stunned by the conversations taking place on cell phones and smartphones as consumers go about their browsing of products … [Read More...]

Bumper Cars

Bumper Cars

The bumper car experience? Not my thing. Mostly, what I recall of being subjected to bumper cars was being rammed by some demon-eyed boy, laughing gleefully. I found myself on the receiving end of jolt after jolt, looking wildly around, terrified of the next hit. Strike back? Deliberately? I never understood the point. On the other hand, I could have enjoyed the twists and turns, but only if I didn't need to fend off the next attack. … [Read More...]

Man walking through portal in the rain

Resurrection For My Spirit

By Andrea Clement Santiago I hear a soft knock at the door. My two dogs are barking, feverishly, warning me that someone or something is here, as if I hadn’t heard the tapping. As I approach the door, I glance out the window to see rain falling onto the empty driveway... I can't see anyone there – the front stoop isn’t visible from the window. If someone has arrived … [Read More...]