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Nicely Appointed

I've always liked the expression "nicely appointed," though it's comme ci comme ça in complimentary oomph, and vague when you consider its ubiquitous usage. How do I mean that? We have nicely appointed model homes, nicely appointed furnished suites, nicely appointed accommodations. (Have you ever heard of a cozy cottage described as nicely appointed? What about a chandelier-filled banquet room?) Surely you begin … [Read More...]

Cultural Musings

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Raise Your Hand if You Are “NOT Present”

Feeling here, there, and everywhere? Documenting your life to ground it in reality?

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Vanity vs. Narcissism

Selfie Culture. Is it vanity or narcissism – or something else?

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Growing in Different Directions… Together

Helping relationships survive personal and professional change… happily.

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How to Survive Retirement With Your Spouse

When retirement hits, and you’re face-to-face and out of sync…

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Marriage Above All Else

Catch-22 for victims of domestic violence and their children?

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5 Tips for a Healthier Relationship

When questions asked and answered can lead to a healthier relationship.

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Keep Calm and Eat Turkey

I love stoic sayings, don't you? Keep calm and carry on. Keep calm and don't "carry on." Keep calm and... well... Go shoe shopping. Now come on. You knew that was coming. What else is coming? If I said "gobble gobble" - might that be a clue? Of course, on this very special day in seasonally appropriate and fulsome fashion - except perhaps from the poor bird's point of view - we have an alternative … [Read More...]

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How NOT to Stress at the Holidays

How not to stress at the holidays? First, brew a cup of your favorite tea or coffee and sit down. (Screw the turkey, screw the missing baking ingredients, screw the bathroom floor that has yet to be scrubbed.) Next, settle in here. Right here. Read for awhile. (Now come on. If you can't find something here to interest you or make you smile, then you just aren't thinking outside the box. Click around! Check out … [Read More...]

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Gone Viral

Ever feel like hanging a sign on your door to buy yourself a little time off, a bit of quiet time, or maybe a good time? How about a Gone Viral sign? Now that would be fun, wouldn't it? Then again, if you go viral - or rather, something you write or post goes viral - you're probably caught up in tracking its popularity and telling all your friends, which may be a good time, but isn't exactly a day at the beach. … [Read More...]

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Taking Notice, Taking Credit

"It's not what you're doing that matters, it's what you're noticed doing." I heard that somewhere recently, and was annoyed. I could imagine that statement from a disgruntled employee, or even a teenager, commenting on chores around the house or kissing up to a teacher. But these aren't words I would expect from someone who takes pride in his or her pursuits. That said, I understand … [Read More...]

Record Player


Maybe it's Devo that triggers your body's beat, or Donovan that renders you happily mellow, or the Yardbirds lulling you with harmonic woo that invokes an era of innocent love. All hail memory's soundtrack! (With a nod, of course, to the return of the turntable.) Whatever your mood, can we agree that tunes set your foot to tapping - and maybe you hum, just a little? So what if you find yourself craving … [Read More...]

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What Men Want

After recently musing on what women want, how could I resist seeking Google's assist on what men want? More precisely, I was curious to know about what men want in a relationship. Clarifying further, I anticipated that the results would be "what men want" as written by women - for women. To my surprise, searching for "what men want" led me to this: what men want... in a wife. … [Read More...]

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What Women Want

What do women want? Now there's a question! Should we assume it pertains to what women want from a man, what women want in bed, and what women want in a relationship? Guys... Are you rolling your eyes? Ladies... Are you wondering why it's so difficult to comprehend? Frankly, I can only imagine that the gentlemen I've known in my life are still posing themselves this question … [Read More...]

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The Personal Chef as Entrepreneur

The online world is full of serendipitous encounters, and I recently bumped into a chef entrepreneur - with plenty to say on healthy eating - and running a personal services business. Brigitte Thériault is a personal chef, master menu planner, and a personal chef business coach. With 10 years of experience doing what she loves, not only does she focus on food that's good - and good for us - but she … [Read More...]


The Benefits of Stretching

How does it feel to reach up and stretch in the morning, or to bend and gently try to touch your toes? Sometimes, stretching hurts - yet it hurts oh-so-good if we understand its purpose. And of course, if we aren't stupid about it - overdoing without regard to consequences. When it comes to stretching physically, we need to exercise due care. But that shouldn't deter us from … [Read More...]

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Women Executives Offer Their Experience

I really couldn't pass this up. The New York Times features four female CEOs addressing what it means to find their voice. Now I must admit that I've become an avid fan of the "corner office" in The Times Business Section. One of the reasons is because of the opportunity to hear women talk about how they worked their way up to running the show, not to mention something of their personal stories that … [Read More...]

Threesome One Woman Two Men


Yesterday was not my typical day. I went for something unusual. It was a matter of facing issues of sexiness, convention, self-image. Dare I mention... there was a three-way involved. A three-way mirror, that is. Hardly a secret to my intimates, I've lived my life with all too common dramas of weight and body image. There have been ghastly periods and triumphs, lulls for which I am grateful, and … [Read More...]

Young Woman with Much on her Mind

Good Intentions, Good Connections

The timing couldn't have been better. A friend pointed me to an article on The Atlantic that speaks to issues of emotional support - not only their execution, but the good intentions that motivate those we love. Good intentions alone are not sufficient, but they are important. Naturally, we are familiar with … [Read More...]

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Everyone Needs a Cheerleader

Sometimes it takes us years to understand basic lessons like this one: Everyone needs a cheerleader, an ardent fan, a steadfast supporter. Your cheerleader may be your parent, though hopefully as you become an adult, Mom or Dad isn't the only cheerleader on the sidelines. Your cheerleader ought to be the person you make your life with - just as you are his or her biggest fan. And that means … [Read More...]

Sensitive Woman Lost in Thought

“Too Sensitive”

I have been accused of being overly sensitive to criticism, overly sentimental, and much too concerned with other people's feelings. In other words, I am "too" sensitive, and I suffer from empathy on steroids. I plead guilty to the first (in my personal life), guilty to the second (faced with a tear-jerker on screen or in print), and guilty to the third - with no qualifications whatsoever. I am empathetic … [Read More...]

Young African American Mother and Baby

Best Day Ever? How to Decide?

If someone asks you to pick the best day of your life, how would you decide which day that is? What criteria would you use? Might you angle for two "best" days if you could? Would your best day ever be an event, a personal moment, or possibly a professional triumph? Would it be the day you fell in love? The day you married? The day you became a mother or father? What about a perfectly ordinary day … [Read More...]

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How to Keep a Straight Face

How to keep a straight face while dying to laugh out loud? Hard. Very hard. How to keep a straight face while lying? For some, not hard enough. Training yourself to exhibit a placid exterior, when you're feeling angry or sad, or for that matter - silly? Keeping that straight face through a poker game, a critical conversation, a negotiation … [Read More...]

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Growing Old… Alone

How many of us are growing older alone? How many of us are concerned about aging solo, with family members - if we have them at all - living at too great a distance to be of use, emotionally or logistically? How many of us try to deny the fear of what we imagine is coming? Sure, there are periods when we navigate our lives as singles. And do so no longer starry-eyed and fresh-faced, for example … [Read More...]

Woman Thinking Looking Up

Bad Relationship Choices

We're chatting about relationships. A string of bad relationships - and bad relationship choices. Mine. I insist that I never saw the end coming. Or for that matter, I didn't predict the less than happy "middle" either. "We all have choices," he says to me. "Some of us may have fewer, or the options are narrower. But we all have choices." He's an old friend. A trusted friend. The conversation … [Read More...]