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Couple Not Speaking

“When I’m Done, I’m Done” (Or Not)

Couples who get back together after a break up? Try this scenario: They were sweethearts 25 years earlier, split up, led separate lives, had kids, and met again. Both divorced, they pick up where they left off - now in their 40s or 50s. Sound familiar? Maybe the version you've heard involves a widow or widower, but the basics remain the same - what once fizzled is successfully rekindled - and sticks. How many of us know of at least one couple who could tell this story? Off the top of my head … [Read More...]

Style

Beauty Salma Hayek

Bashing the Body Beautiful

Making peace with the diversity of our beautiful bodies…

60 year old woman in glasses

60 is the New 40

How do you feel? 40? 60? 80? When does the number matter?

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Marriage

Pretty Engagement Ring

The Significance of a Ring

Marital status, marital symbols, and ripple effects we sometimes ignore.

Beautiful African American Woman

The Grass is Always Greener. Not.

Marriage and divorce… Is there really something better waiting?

Young woman at laptop

Why I Need to Hire a Wife

Working long hours? In need of a wife?

Man and woman on the same page

How to Marry the “Right” Person

Can we acquire the skills to choose partners with our heads as well as our hearts?

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Woman Giving Presentation

The Language Link

First impressions? Not only are they a matter of how we look, but how we speak and what we say. Voice, tone, body language - certainly our choice of words - these reveal far more about us than we may realize. As for communication skills, haven't we all seen adept politicians use them to their advantage? Likewise, inspirational leaders in any domain, including business. A powerful speaker is … [Read More...]

Man with big smile

Looks Good On Paper (Relationships)

Maybe you've had one or two. Those "looks good on paper" guys - relationships that are sure to guarantee "happily ever after."' You know what I'm talking about - the kind of man with the right height and hair color, the right schools and degrees, the right profession (and presumably income). You might even say that he meets criteria on your critical Ideal Partner Shortlist - loves to … [Read More...]

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Thoughts on the Sharing Economy

I will share my morning coffee. I will share my sandwich for lunch. I will not share my toothbrush. Now, now. That shouldn't be a surprise. I will share my knowledge. I will share my skills. I will not share my opinions if they are hurtful; instead I will wait to be asked, then speak my piece diplomatically. I will share good news. I will share a laugh. I will share your confidence... and naturally, guard your … [Read More...]

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Transparency

Transparency. It's an interesting concept. I recall my introduction to it some 15 years back. At the time, it concerned design decisions: Clear glass shower doors were all the rage and my contractor tried to convince me. "It enlarges the room and it's good for resale," he said. I was unmoved. The nice big tub, the textured tiles, the stand-alone stall with a great shower head - all that, I could buy … [Read More...]

f Mature Woman Considering the Future

“Constructive Distraction”

A dozen years ago, in the midst of a prolonged and emotionally wrenching divorce, I dropped 40 pounds. You could say that stress was a factor, which indeed it was. Also factors: My focus was on legal proceedings, I was job searching, and I was helping my children through a seemingly incomprehensible time. Eating had become a non-event, a necessary pit stop for fuel, an annoyance. Food issues, long … [Read More...]

Woman With Much on Her Mind

Relationship Problems or Problem Relationship?

Is there a difference between a problem relationship - which may be a matter of something you can't put your finger on - and relationship problems? Is one a tougher nut to crack? If you're confronting the most common relationship problems, does it mean your relationship itself is on the rocks? You may find yourself involved with - or married to - the most terrific person on the planet. And … [Read More...]

f Pouty Woman Under Hairdryer

Too Old for Reality?

In the past few weeks, I've been contacted by two different media companies regarding two opportunities. To put this in perspective, I'm guessing I'm one of a million who received an email. Okay. Maybe one of 50,000. These were initial queries, and naturally, we all find it lovely to be "asked to the dance" or even considered for being asked to the dance. For that matter (more realistically), being told … [Read More...]

Flirty Woman Sipping Red Wine

Sex, Floss, and Red Wine

What's not to love about this health tidbit? I came across a delightful infographic that features the health benefits of some of our most entertaining activities. Well, they aren't all entertaining. No one loves flossing. But when we process the big picture, we're sure to flash a far more formidable smile for friends, family and a special "someone." So do read on, and stop by these 10 (strange) ways … [Read More...]

Woman With Guilty Expression

Guilt Trip?

The Guilt Trip. It's an effective manipulation, but oh... what a nasty ride. It's like taking a turn on the Shame, Blame, and Mind Game Express - especially when you live with someone who is a master at this form of "persuasion." So why is it that some people don't ask for what they want outright? Why do they corral others into doing their bidding by making them squirm? More importantly … [Read More...]

Jenny Lind by DW

On Swedish Singers and Breck Girls

"I didn't know you could do that," he says. "What do you mean?" "Draw like that. When did you do it?" I check the date. "I was 15," I say. He's looking at me with genuine surprise. I'm holding a sketchbook from the 1970s, dug out of a box overflowing with photographs and papers I'm trying to sort out. Somewhere there is another sketchbook, larger. I can't seem to locate it. "So who is this?" … [Read More...]

Beautiful Confident Woman

Do You Like Your Job?

Do you like your job? And if you're a student, do you like what you're studying? Considering how all-consuming work (or study) has become in recent years, asking if you like what you do is a reasonable question. Once upon a time, I worked as a programmer. I didn't hate it, I didn't love it; it paid the bills. And at the end of each day, I felt very tired. Let's just say... I was pleased when I was no longer … [Read More...]

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Saying Goodbye to Joan Rivers, 81 Years Young

Joan Rivers, legendary comedienne, died on Thursday, September 4, 2014. She was 81 years young. Millions are mourning the passing of this trailblazing woman who kept so many of us laughing for so many years. And since hearing the news, I find myself deeply affected for a number of reasons. Naturally, as we grow older, we tend to shift our views on age as we realize the ways in which we remain … [Read More...]

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The Sharing Model for Work and Family

I find much to like in a recent column on The Daily Beast. Psychologist Monique Moore addresses issues of greater flexibility for working mothers. She includes longer (paid) maternity leave, access to affordable (quality) childcare, and part-time options. Dr. Moore presents the usual, now familiar research in "A Continuing Struggle for Working Moms" and it reflects a desire to "lean in" and equally … [Read More...]

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On Mountains, Rejection, and Mountains of Rejection

Rejection. Even the sound of the word is distasteful. Re-jec-tion. Its first syllable evokes eeek, eeesh, eegads! Its second syllable seduces - (sly dog) - but the initial softness of the j is followed by the full force of the egregious "ect" with its harsh k still clanging in my ears. As for syllable number three, "tion" certainly encourages one to "shun" any further attempts to stick one's neck on the creative … [Read More...]

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Saving Scenes of Childhood: Storytelling on Film

Storytelling is one of the most compelling ways to communicate, whether to instruct our children in societal lessons or to make a point for commercial purposes. Storytelling at its best will engage the audience in a persuasive and indelible manner, as the narrative, characters, and setting settle into a place of accessible memory. Occasionally, a film engages not only by virtue of its combination … [Read More...]

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Does Chronic Pain Cause Depression?

When he threw out his back and didn’t recover in three days, he changed. Unused to physical constraints of any sort (much less chronic pain) - his mood soured, his comments cut, his interests turned inward. He grew depressed. Reading habits focused on the workings of the spinal column, the lower five vertebrae, the SI joint, ligaments, musculature, the proper way to sit and stand. This wasn’t the man I knew … [Read More...]

Woman Enjoying Dessert in Cafe

Out the Window

Life is full of good intentions, isn’t it? My recipe for good intentions typically includes a lengthy list of items. And on Sundays, that means reading, writing, work and... a bit of exercise. My good intentions today? Out the window. My usual schedule? Precisely the same fate. Would you be surprised to know that I was contemplating hopping a plane? (If only, if only, if only...) I daresay anyone who knows me … [Read More...]

Letter Writing

Unmailed Letter to an Old Friend

May 22, 2004 Dear S, At last, one of those rare weekends when L is here with D and M, and I have 48 hours to myself. Well, not entirely to myself, but chunks of time and that's pretty good. M is doing better, by the way, finally. It was heartbreaking for so long, but we're definitely on the upswing. Before I forget - a nice moment. M was able to persuade L to go with him to an art class, the Saturday class he … [Read More...]

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The Economics of Fedoras and Fussiness

By Brian Sorrell I fear that some may misapprehend my affection for the fedora, as its important functions might be lost on those who do not embrace the inestimable value of a well-crafted hat. When you select a fedora, go with fur felt, preferably with a leather sweat band and a high quality silk lining. At the back, just at the lip of the band, you will notice a little bow, which is a nod to the hatters who went mad … [Read More...]

Little Girl on an Escalator

Standing on the Down Escalator

I've seen this statement retweeted numerous times. In a profile piece on The New York Times, Mayor Michael Bloomberg is quoted as saying "I don't have anything in common with people who stand on escalators." Given the lifestyle of the man in question - billionaire philanthropist, media mogul, former major of the Big Apple - you could say he doesn't have anything in common with many … [Read More...]