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Why Opposites Attract

When I'm mad, you know it. When I'm worried, you know it. When I'm on top of the world, you can't miss it! As for my Man Friend? While I'm not convinced we're "opposites" exactly - there are many ways that we are different, not the least of which is the way we work, personal style, neatness around the house, and preferences for quiet time. So why is it that opposites attract, and if they do, what keeps them together? Naturally, we need to define our terms. Are we speaking of … [Read More...]

Lifestyle

f Mature Woman Thinking

Turning Experience Into Wisdom

Though we might like to think so, older doesn’t always mean “wiser.”

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For the Love of the Letter

When’s the last time you wrote a letter… by hand?

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Marriage

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Does Marriage Bring Out Our “Worst” Selves?

Bad habits gained in marriage, sometimes shed with divorce…

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Not the Marrying Kind

Are you cut out for marriage? For remarriage? What does that mean?

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Silence is Golden?

The secret to “success” in long-term marriage… Silence?

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When You Marry a Loner

It’s a personality, a way of life, a challenge in marriage…

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Couple Kissing

Kissing Bridge

Who doesn't remember their first kiss - when and where it took place, what his or her name was, how it felt - awkward, strange, wonderful? Who can forget the scene in Sex and the City when Charlotte is trying to reform the Very Bad Kisser? His hapless attempts to maneuver tongue and lips leave our heroine covered with slobber and nursing a bruised chin. We may not judge a book by its cover, but … [Read More...]

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Meal Planning

It's not even an hour into my work day and I'm popping Advil for a nasty headache, then glancing at my schedule for a time I can sit with a hot cloth over my eyes. They're strained. Heat helps. Twenty minutes later I'm loading up a filter for a third pot of coffee - early, even for me - hoping my elixir of choice will brighten my mood and magically restore my vision. Standing at the counter, I'm staring … [Read More...]

Planning Through a Maze

Plan A, Plan B, Plan C… Plan “Me?”

Everyone loves a backup plan - Plan B to your Plan A, and maybe a Plan C to your Plan B - especially if you're a believer in Murphy's Law (or a little bit paranoid). Recognizing the need for accommodating contingencies, this is the wisdom of "plan for the worst and hope for the best." In our work lives and our family lives, planning is useful, isn't it? Granted, some situations are tricky to manage. In particular … [Read More...]

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Men Are Different. (I Know, Right?)

"Panzer General? Yes, that's good," he says. He's talking to his son on the phone. I hear his 26-year-old's voice. It's deep, upbeat, energetic. "Yeah, we need to get back into those games," he says. He pauses. "Kursk? Right. Largest battle. 1943." I'm sitting next to him in bed contemplating Jane Austen, Revlon's Raven Red, my perfect peep-toes in a box gathering dust and set atop a stack of … [Read More...]

Mother and Daughter looking at photo album

“You’re Just Like Your…” (Fill in the Blank)

"Like mother, like daughter." How many times have you heard that expression or possibly used it yourself? It may be a compliment or it may be a neutral observation. Occasionally, it's a dig. "Like father, like son." What about that one? Have those four words passed your lips - with pride and affection? Other variations come to mind, especially when you're mad or overtired. "You're just like … [Read More...]

Coffee is Heart Healthy

Have Your Coffee (and Drink It, Too)

Who doesn't love their coffee? How many early mornings have you found yourself clutching the can of Folgers, joyful over Jamaican Blue Mountain, or impatient to indulge in the chickory-infused option picked up at Publix? Perhaps you're perked up by any variant in a shot or a mug, as long as it is strong, dark, and caffeinated. Once again, those of us who adore our coffee … [Read More...]

Proud Mature Man

James’ Father

By Scott Behson, PhD A few months ago, I attended a reception for Honor Students at my university. I had served as the mentor for the thesis of one of my favorite students (a promising young man named James), who will leave his mark on the world one day! It was a great night where we acknowledged the efforts and intellectual endeavors of our very best students, and I was in awe of … [Read More...]

Little Girl with Big Brown Eyes

Common Sense and (Early) Childhood Education

You may dispute the study that is referenced. You may dispute the comparisons made to our youngest and most vulnerable. However, it would surprise me if you dispute the logic: Children who grow up in neglect and despair are less likely to succeed in life, however you define that success. A recent article broaches this subject from several angles. Appearing in The Huffington Post, it addresses … [Read More...]

School Bus

School Bus Blues? Not Exactly.

You rise early to scan emails, to get a jump on your Monday checklists, to stand at Mr. Coffee where you place the filter, measure the French Roast, pour the water - then wait. You hear them before you actually see them: shiny yellow school buses rolling by your window. You remember your marigold-colored Number 2 pencils, neatly sharpened; your lemon and white hound's tooth suit … [Read More...]

Woman Lying on a Beach Midriff

Permission to Daydream

It’s August. Are you on vacation? Are you planning some time off or have you already given your brain and body a period of rest? If you're anything like me, sadly, the answer to both those questions is no. Taking up the charge for regular reverie and daily downtime, the value of daydreaming is explored in an article at The New York Times. Ready to hear why permission to daydream is granted … [Read More...]

Zen Garden

Radical Simplicity

I had this thought over a quickly prepared meal of pasta and chicken. Radical, for me. Radical simplicity, in fact. (Both the meal and the thought.) Maybe it was the manner of throwing together dinner: No desire or time to run out for veggies, a make-do approach to whatever was in the fridge and pantry, and a wish - a fervent longing - to simplify. Everything. My life is not easily simplified. … [Read More...]

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Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger (Maybe)

It's a question that comes up when we're looking at a fork in the road, or wondering about the road not taken, or just noting that the years are passing more quickly. We run through a litany of "things I wish I knew when I was younger." Ever tried it? The answers may be illuminating, amusing, poignant. Rather than telling you what I've come up with (this time), I'd like to comment on one list … [Read More...]

Woman on Phone listening

An Offer You Can’t Refuse

The home phone rings. You don't pick up. At least, not usually. It's never anyone you care to speak to - telemarketers, fundraisers. But this time, something is different. This time, your gut says to answer. So you do. Maybe it's an old friend from college. An old boss or client you haven't heard from in three years. An old beau who is just the right pick-me-up for what ails you with his snappy repartee … [Read More...]

Shopping Crazed Woman

A Measure of Values

I love this concept from Lifehack: The way to measure your personal values is to consider how you spend your time and how you spend your money. It's a logical premise. As explained in a brief article, Marcus Taylor considers both topics, beginning with how he spends his money. And for documenting that piece of the puzzle, he turns to his banking information - in other words - the most direct method you have … [Read More...]

Young Woman Looking at Herself in Mirror

How Others See You Is Important

I've heard it expressed many ways in many contexts: How others see you isn't as important as how you perceive yourself. "I move on quickly," a woman may say, after a rejection in online dating. "What matters is my own sense of value." "My damn boss," a friend grumbles. "He snarls every time I try to ask a question. But I know exactly what I'm worth." "I don't think anyone likes me," the child says. Unguarded … [Read More...]

LuAnn de Lesseps 2011

Ramona and Lu… With You-Know-Who?

First, let me clarify. It was a dream. Not reality. Not even reality TV. But who expects Ramona Singer and LuAnn de Lesseps joining them in Paris in their... well, dreams? No, it wasn't a nightmare. On the contrary. It was, quite simply, yours truly trolling and strolling through some of my favorite haunts in my most favorite place on the planet. Why I was there with Ramona and the Countess … [Read More...]

Pearls are sexy

Does Marriage Kill Passion?

Does marriage kill off passion, or is it time that wears away the sparkle, the sizzle, the special satisfaction? Psychology Today tells us that predictions of lost lust in the marital bedroom are not a given. In "Love and Lust," not only does the writer contend that relationship heat can be maintained, but she touches on something even more appealing: the notion that we can never entirely know each other. … [Read More...]

Mature Beauty Thinking

If You’re Not Part of the Solution…

When I saw her number pop up on the phone, I was tickled. Catching up on this and that with an old friend, we started unloading about a series of challenges that we've both been dealing with. Isn't it great when you have a friend like that? You can laugh, you can cry... all very "Cats"... then you can dissect what's up. Maybe you get off the phone with a new perspective on whatever is troubling you. … [Read More...]

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10 Life Lessons From a Solo Divorcee

By Andrea Clement What if you find yourself forty, divorced, and with no parents or children? How do you deal with what life throws your way, when you seem to be out of sync with everyone else? Most people my age are part of the “sandwich generation” – squeezed between the constant demands of marriage, children, and aging parents. Their schedules are packed with family birthdays, school … [Read More...]

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Authority Problems? Nah. But Don’t Tell Me What to Do!

We all know that kids rebel. But they aren't the only ones. Some of us have a hard time when others tell us what to do. We struggle taking direction professionally, we fume at advice in our personal lives, we resist anyone exerting control over our decisions, our actions, or what to think. We have problems with authority figures. Some people have no such issues. They're fine with a mix … [Read More...]