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For Love or Money: Pursuing Your Passion

So which is it - pursue your passion hoping you can succeed, or follow the money motivation instead? Is the question simplistic? As a parent, I advised my children to do what they love if they can - in particular, to explore whatever catches their fancy while they're still young. But I also modeled the necessity of being responsible. In other words, the bottom line is the bottom line - as in the ability to support one's family. And in a contest of love or money? … [Read More...]

Work-Life Juggle

Attractive Woman Thinking

Getting Down to Business

Work ethic is one thing. Never enjoying success is another.

Worried Woman Eyes Closed

What is the REAL Problem? Having it All or Doing it All?

Are we confusing “having it all” with “doing it all?”

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Relationships

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5 Tips for a Healthier Relationship

When questions asked and answered can lead to a healthier relationship.

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Revisiting Romance

The Romance Department. Is yours still open for business?

f Brothers Laughing

Boys to Men

A single mother’s musing on boys, men, and our role in creating both.

f Beautiful Woman Dreamy Expression

Should You Change Yourself for Someone You Love?

Change is good, but how much and why? What if it’s for someone you love?

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Stealing the Soul

Most of us have heard mention of the belief that a photograph can steal the soul. There are references to Native Americans refusing to have their pictures taken in the late 19th and early 20th centuries, and references to Australian Aborigines as well. I have never confronted this notion in any personal way nor even considered it. At least, not until a few weeks ago. At that time, a stroke of luck yielded an exceptional image of a young man. But not any … [Read More...]

World Cup 2014 Soccer Ball

The Roar of the Crowd

Whoops. Hollers. Screams. All of it coming from the living room sofa, where a middle-aged man and a college kid bounce, cheer, and clap wildly over... you got it... soccer. Yes, the 2014 World Cup. To be specific, the Brazil-Germany match in which the home crowd was sorely disappointed by a 7-1 trouncing. Me? A soccer fan? Personally, I'd rather watch tennis, though … [Read More...]

f Beautiful Confident African American Business Woman

One Step Beyond “No”

I've been a fan of "just say no" for years - for many reasons and many uses. When we cease accepting every challenge, accommodating every request, and feeling pressured to take on more responsibilities than we can possibly perform well, we make space for greater success. The overfilled plate? Even if we don't fail outright, stress runs high, performance falters, and we're likely to disappoint someone - most particularly, ourselves. … [Read More...]

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Into Every Life a Little Rain Must Fall

Compact purse umbrellas, small briefcase umbrellas, bankers in bowler hats, strolling with umbrellas... Giant golf umbrellas in big, bold stripes. In the worst case… how about an awning, a canopy, or a ledge beneath which we can catch our breath and find momentary refuge? Who doesn’t desire a measure of protection when we come to understand that … [Read More...]

Woman Can't Sleep

How to Cope With Frustration

Help! I need coping strategies when frustration sends me over the edge! Okay. Not over the edge exactly, but into Land of Ill Temper, Irritation, and Rampant Snapping. For some of us, it's the small frustrations that bring us down: The shelving box says "easy assembly" and the directions are a nightmare; the GPS says turn right and you find yourself miserably lost; traffic is clogged and … [Read More...]

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No Red, No White, a Little Blue

Red, white and blue. Today is the day for it, don't you think? No red here (though I love the color). No white either. (Too easy to spill, to soil, to stain.) Blue? Make that a yes. Why? It started with a phone call from my kid. My college student. "When's your flight?" I ask. "I have to check," he says. "Wait. You have the ticket, don't you?" Now I'm the one who has to check. Yup. He's right. I page through … [Read More...]

Jurors Report Here

Jury Duty

The jury duty summons. You roll your eyes, you let out a sigh, you wonder why it is that it comes at the worst possible time. Again. If you've never received a jury summons much less served, you could find the experience to be enlightening. Alternately, it might be tedious, as you spend a day sitting and waiting, and eventually being sent home. If you have received a jury duty summons … [Read More...]

f Beautiful Asian Model

A Beautiful Face

Beauty. We all want it. We all chase it. Some of us hope to embody it in a variety of ways - and not just the beautiful face or figure. We are drawn to beauty in each other, however we define it, even as media and the Internet seem to be shifting what that means - or trying. A recent feature in The Atlantic attempts to capture certain cultural nuances in what passes for beauty. … [Read More...]

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Are the Rich Like the Rest of Us?

Sure, rich or poor, we all put on our pants one leg at a time. Yes, we all need to eat, sleep, and use the bathroom. True, we're all human beings. But are the über-wealthy really like the rest of us? I'm pondering this question as the result of an interview of Melinda Gates that appears in Germany's Spiegel. The reporters pull no punches, and for those of us used to the American press, we might find the pointed questions both admirable and surprising. … [Read More...]

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Privacy Problems With Analytics?

I confess to a love-hate relationship with data. I find facts (not factoids) essential to decision-making, and analytics an intelligent tool. Yet I'm uneasy when I read the ways in which individual privacy continues to be eroded even as, theoretically, some of the blurring of informational boundaries is convenient and even, some might say, in our 'best interest.' Allow me to clarify … [Read More...]

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What Are You Up To?

Everyone enjoys a good game of revelatory questions. The meme (of sorts) has become a pleasurable routine, and I found myself smiling at the quick sketch offered up in The New York Times on renowned glass artist, Dale Chihuly. This week's Download by Kate Murphy gives us the legendary glass artist relating what he's reading, listening to, watching, eating and so on. What about you? … [Read More...]

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Growing in Different Directions… Together

Growing apart? How many times do we use that catch-all phrase to explain the weakening of our relationships and possibly their demise? Sure, we do grow apart as our lives get tangled up in the details of pursuing careers and raising families. So what about growing in different directions? Is that little more than a euphemism for growing apart? Is it possible to grow in different directions while … [Read More...]

Confident Mature Businesswoman

Rehirement Planning: 6 Job Search Tips for Seasoned Professionals

By Andrea Clement If you're a midlife job seeker, you may be surprised at some of the obstacles you're facing in your search. You were once convinced you'd be settled in your career at this stage, having worked your way up the ladder, and looking forward to retirement. Your current situation is the last thing you imagined. For most of us in our forties, fifties, and beyond, retirement is about … [Read More...]

Couple Planning Retirement

How to Survive Retirement With Your Spouse

If you're wondering how your marriage will survive your spouse's retirement, you're not alone. And despite an economy that keeps many in the workforce long past traditional retirement age, millions of households are nonetheless facing a dramatic change when Hubby stays home, or for that matter, when both do. My friends who are concerned about their soon-to-retire spouses? I get it. That is … [Read More...]

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How to Make Money, French Toast, Buttermilk and Jello Shots

How to boil an egg? I've got that down. How to make money? More challenging. French Toast? Piece of cake... so to speak. Buttermilk? Why would I want to make buttermilk? Or for that matter, Jello Shots? Listen. I love a good Google search. And with a nod to the imagination and gumption that goes along with entrepreneurship, I was curious what people are motivated to create. … [Read More...]

f Sad Woman Looking Down

Marriage Above All Else

I've said it before: There's a marriage agenda in divorce data. I've said it before when it comes to women and their choices, especially mothers: Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I've said it before: We are often more focused on the wedding than the marriage, and so intent on marrying people off, we don't pay attention to whether they have a shot at making it or whether they truly know each other. … [Read More...]

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Girls Night Out

Girls Night Out? When is the last time you indulged? How about this weekend? Does this still take place - not only before marriage, but after? If we were the Sex and the City girls, we know nights out are routine no matter what, as are the deliciously connective coffee shop get-togethers. And remember … [Read More...]

Dishes in dishwasher

Bull in a China Shop

It seems cliché, but every man I've ever known has broken dishes, glassware, and the occasional vase. That isn't to say they were clumsy exactly; nor were they the proverbial bull in a china shop. Naturally, I've also had my hand in the inadvertent destruction of porcelain and crystal, not to mention spills that stain upholstery or rugs. But the frequency of … [Read More...]

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On the Pleasure of the Magazine

The closest stack of unread magazines has been taunting me for days. Yes, taunting. It's a delectable stash that I've been hoarding, and it includes Harper's Bazaar, ELLE, along with House Beautiful and Raw Vision. Not far is a separate stack with both literary and business magazines. By the way, did I mention that these issues go back to mid-winter? Like many of us … [Read More...]

f Woman Daydreaming on Balcony

To Sleep, Perchance to Dream

I'll be honest. My recent wishful thinking about vacation? My perusing online? Not only was I exploring possibilities within a few hours drive, but my dreaming was extending beyond such banal boundaries. I've been pondering a trip to Europe - seven or eight days and nights - and not just to Paris. Now, now. Paris would be included... In fact, I've been privy to a conversation … [Read More...]

f Troubled Couple

5 Tips for a Healthier Relationship

In puzzling through a professional situation some time back, my goal was to establish a long-term, open, and pleasant meeting of the minds with a colleague. We had experienced occasional conflict. Regular communication helped. It was then that I realized that a similar approach was relevant to achieving … [Read More...]

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Pressure Cooker

This is a story about a frog. But first, there is an uncharacteristic visit to a travel site where I find myself perusing hotels and their amenities. As I am optimistic that some sort of getaway may be in my future, if only for a few days, I lingered over images of king size beds, white terry robes, and breakfast trays filled to overflowing with with fresh fruit. Then something unexpected … [Read More...]