So here’s the dilemma.
When you admit to your age and you’ve hit the half century mark, you put yourself at a disadvantage – in the dating market.
Women in particular feel compelled to lie, especially if we’re dipping a toe into online waters. So what do we do – tell the truth or lie?
What do you do?
As for yours truly, I’m admitting to 50-something. In the professional arena, I’m coming to grips with the fact that “regular” employment may be unlikely; the 30-somethings will surely be hired before the 40-somethings and the 50+ crowd may be in the weeds. In the personal arena – real life has proved to be intriguing.
Isn’t that all the more reason for a “never say die” attitude? All the more reason to stay open and energetic – if we can and as long as we can?
Never Say Never
So here’s to my newest mantra – as I declare myself feisty, flirty, and fifty (something), unwilling to stay quiet, and unwilling to give up – anything!
- I’m a midlife mama, but I’m no one’s matron!
- I own the tales and trials to go with my miles.
- I’ve shed my tears and I’ve earned my wisdom.
- Likewise, my laugh lines – and they’re here to stay.
- I will continue to dare new ventures, and set new goals.
I concede that midlife can seem dismally daunting. There’s that employer prejudice for one thing, the blind ageism for another, and naturally – the ache here, the creak there… and that’s if we’re lucky.
There were long periods when I never thought I’d survive solo parenthood. Happily, I was wrong. Not only did I make it through – with the help of friends as well as strangers – but I learned more from my two young men than I could ever begin to say.
50-something doesn’t mean our mother’s midlife. Of course there are changes – both worries as well as options. Is it really so different from any other stage in life?
As for the job market, it is what it is. Millions of us are struggling, and we need to speak out, to network any way that we can, to keep our creative minds open, and our entrepreneurial spirits dancing outside the borders of the proverbial box.
We also need to say yes to extending a hand, yes to networking, yes to exploring new avenues. When one door closes (as they say), another one opens.
These days, when someone tells me no – it can’t be done?
I tell myself – yes, it most certainly can.
Yes to Romance, Yes to Giving
In fact, I’m a believer in the theory of “yes” – yes to getting out and meeting everyone, and in particular when it comes to romance. I’m a believer in yes to small steps forward, yes to online dating if it works for you, yes to introductions via others, and yes to taking a chance when it comes to your heart, to trusting what you feel, and to trusting what you hear.
And surprise, surprise – I am 50-something and find myself in a delicious relationship, and with a gentleman of my own age. Who would have thought?
As you embark on your holiday, say yes to giving as well as giving thanks. Say yes to who you are, with plenty of room to grow. As for the problems? Don’t sweat it. They’ll find you.
But for the holidays?
Appreciate. Celebrate. Take a moment to savor.